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[newsmutproject]

Consent culture.

Today I'm going to fulfill a promise I made quite a while ago , and talk about what a consent culture would look like. A consent culture...

A consent culture is one in which the prevailing narrative of sex--in fact, of human interaction--is centered around mutual consent.  It is a culture with an abhorrence of forcing anyone into anything, a respect for the absolute necessity of bodily autonomy, a culture that believes that a person is always the best judge of their own wants and needs. I don't want to limit it to sex.  A consent culture is one in which mutual consent is part of social life as well.  Don't want to talk to someone? You don't have to.  Don't want a hug? That's okay, no hug then.  Don't want to try the fish? That's fine.  (As someone with weird food aversions, I have a special hatred for "just taste a little!")  Don't want to be tickled or noogied? Then it's not funny to chase you down and do it anyway. The good news is, there are things you can do to bring this about.

[feotakahari]

There Are Paths

Something @pervocracy posted five and a half years ago, which I tracked down again today: 

“What kind of relationship you have is your choice, and one choice isn't better than another.  What's important is that you make a choice.  That even if you're monogamous, vanilla, and heterosexual--you're doing it because it's what you want and because you and your partner have agreed to it, not because that's what people do.  What's important isn't what path you take, but that you know there are paths.”

In one way or another, this sums up everything I try to say on this blog. I’m not trying to argue that any one path is the best possible path. I just try to argue that there are different paths, and it’s okay to decide for yourself which one you want to go down.

[disredspectful]

Freedom from expectations that depend upon your ovary/testicle status is a human right. Trans people’s exercise of that right is not a spec

Cliff Pervocracy is writing essays again! It's all very good and I find it quite difficult to pick a sample quote!

This is why “trans rights are human rights” isn’t just a generic slogan like “trans rights are important because trans people are human.” Trans rights are an extension of all humans’ rights to live their lives and express themselves and control their own bodies. The rules that blocked women from voting are from the same book as the ones that try to block “women” from taking testosterone. Freedom from expectations that depend upon your ovary/testicle status is a human right. Trans people’s exercise of that right is not a special case.

Bonus:

I don’t know, I can’t solve the fundamental questions of human consciousness right here on my WordPress and I shouldn’t have to do so before I’m allowed to pee standing up.

[waxpcup]

Unfortunately Including The Disco

[rosszulorzott]

[rosszulorzott]

Do not anti-meditate! Best life hack I’ve ever read. I have a meditation practice of 15 years but this is still meaningful to me and I can imagine (though not try) that it would be a powerful initiation into a whole new world of approaching our inner processes for someone innocent to meditation. Thank you Cliff!

[udnoestaaqui]

oh. tumblr has already banned cliff pervocracy.

[find-me-at-x-blog]

Anyone know what happened to pervocracy?

Apparently, they're on Twitter. Lemme go see if I can dig up the post I just saw on this, but a search for their username should bring it up!

Edit: here it is!