I got no flag but i felt the need to coin something like this.
Phobiagender
Where your gender is tied or otherwise influsenced by things you fear. This fear could prevent you from identifying as terms that would otherwise fit you.
Ex: a pangender person could be phobiagender if they wont identify as pupgender, even if they fit it, because they have Cynophobia or fear of dogs.
This gender is not tied to bigotry or interalized bigotry.
Alternatively....
Philiagender
Where your gender is tried or otherwise influsenced by things you love. This love could encourage you to identify as terms that would otherwise not fit you.
Ex: a pangender person could be philiagender if they identify as catgender, even if they dont fit it, because they have felinephilia or are fond of cats
This gender is not tied to fetishization.