fauxbians will say that real lesbians affirming we were born this way is a cope we make bc we're ashamed of our sexuality like it's such a gotcha
.... but all it does is further prove they can't relate to real homosexuals.
when I say I was born this way, I'm not saying it because I'm desperate for heterosexuals to please PLEASE don't hate me because it's not my fault, I can't help it 🥺
I'm saying it because being only attracted to women is all I've ever known.
I didn't have crushes on boyband members like you did. while the other 7 year olds were daydreaming about the jonas brothers, I was sneaking peeks at the shakira album my mother owned when I was alone because I was enchanted by her curves.
while my friends were attracted to sebastian from black butler, I cared more about the girls in sailor moon (and their legs).
when other girls were fantasising about getting married and having babies, I was planning on going through life alone and dying a virgin because the thought of marrying a man seemed so alien and wrong. I didn't know a woman could be with another woman back then. I knew that there was no way a man would be in my future though.
I had never heard of adrienne rich, sheila jeffries, julie bindel, or any other political lesbian author when I was 11 years old to have been inspired to "become" a lesbian and direct my attraction towards women instead of men for the sake of feminism. but in spite of having no idea I could "choose" to be a lesbian, I still had both my first kiss and my first girlfriend at 11.
I didn't choose my sexuality. that doesn't mean I think my sexuality is like a disease I was born with no choice other than to put up with (to use a flattering comparison fauxbians often like to use when we assert our sexuality is innate, and not chosen). it means, since my earliest years, I've only been attracted to other females. my childhood crushes were female only. my celebrity crushes were female only. even my cartoon crushes were on female characters. and not once was my attraction ever for males. I've never been curious about males, not even curious enough about them to so much as hold hands.
my sexuality isn't some choice I made for feminism. how could it be, when it was manifesting years before I knew what feminism was?
it's something that just is. and saying that isn't an excuse, or a cop out, or some weird masterplan by gay men to undermine feminism, or whatever fauxbians say to cope with the fact that unlike them, some of us don't have to try and repress an attraction towards men. describing myself as born this way is merely the most accurate description of my lesbianism, that's always been a part of me as far as I can remember.
