#poly question

[thatgirlyoup3rvwith]

What do you do when you find out someone else’s monogamous indoctrination will destroy your chance at happiness with them?

[chasingfulfillment]

Hey Poly People!

I have a question, and I feel like you guys are most qualified to help me out here:

I'm not in a poly relationship right now, but in general, I really struggle sometimes with balancing my relationships and still finding a way to get fulfillment from them, without feeling like I'm being selfish. It might be a human thing, or an anxiety thing, but as people who thrive on balanced relationships, do you have any advice?

[mattiepants-blog]

Having that interesting feeling where I want to date people and have more partners, but I also want to have my “me” time regularly... 

How do people date while balancing “me” time without having to book dates weeks in advance? And then when a relationship grows, how do you keep it going without further losing that personal time?

[sweatertoon]

would you ever date someone who wasnt poly but was ok with you sharing the love and looking for other people

I think this is a pretty hard question because it’s not a simple yes or no.

I mean, it would be a simple yes but I’ve encountered problems with this before. I find people who are strictly monogamous don’t tend to budge. My last ex, before we started dating I expressed the way I was with relationships and he was always “we’ll see” but the second it came down to it I was told nope, not happening. It was him or someone else. But I was kinda in too deep with him and stayed with him for another year in a relationship that made me feel kinda alone and suppressed. Even then, people who are strictlymonogamous might also get more jealous, insecure and lash out. I’m not saying all people would, and poly people experience these things but I think if you only believe love is between two people then you watch your partner be with someone else, be happy and also fall in love it will cause some serious issues for you. 

I would never want to do that to someone, or cause someone I cared about any pain (and I’d only date someone I cared about)

However, a lot of people are modern and understand the fluid nature of people nowadays so if someone could 100% respect and be happy with who I am and allow me to express myself fully (even if they didn’t have the same form of expression) then yes. I could. But I find that situation very unlikely.

SORRY FOR THE LONG RESPONSE WHEN YOU WERE PROBABLY ONLY LOOKING FOR LIKE A SENTENCE. 

[caffeinatedfantasy]

My Issue with Poly

[First off, it's not actually a moral issue with Poly, just a personal conflict around it.]

When I get interested in someone, relationship-wise, it's hard for me to see other people in any similiar capacity. 

For example, I'm starting to like this guy who is Poly, and I want to focus my attention on him and see where things go, but since a) He's Poly and I'm new to that and b) He just barely broke up with his Primary, I