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While many play the blame game and try to point to anything other than the real problem, Jon Steward puts it simply, “It seems the escalation of these incidents may be a byproduct of a system that’s applied unequally and with prejudice.”

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There are a lot of things to like about Disney’s new film Frozen: Idina Menzel. ‘Nuff said. There are two strong female protagonists, neither of which is a damsel in distress. The central conflict isn’t between a “hero” and a “villain.” It’s between two likable, empathetic characters, each of whom is doing what she thinks is right based on her own experience. This is how conflicts work in real life, and it’s a much healthier way to see the world than the typical good-guys-vs.-bad-guys narrative. It’s genuinely funny, with some quirky Arrested Development references thrown in for good measure. The film plays with some typical princess-movie tropes and dares to call them into question. Notably, when a princess character falls instantly in love with a dashing prince, other characters question her judgment, reminding her that in the real world, it takes time to really get to know someone. (When’s the last time you heard THAT in a Disney movie?) It already inspired this hilarious meme: But one of my favorite things about this film is that it works exceptionally well as an allegory for LGBT people and their families. I hate spoilers, so if you’re planning to see Frozen and don’t want anything spoiled, all I’ll say is this: Many LGBT viewers have said they feel a strong connection to Elsa, the older sister. If you’re a straight family member of an LGBT person, you may find yourself relating to Anna, the younger sister. Keep that in mind as you enjoy the film. Beyond this point are some spoilers, so stop reading now if you don’t want to know the basics of the plot. *** SOME SPOILERS AHEAD *** Frozen is about two sisters, Elsa and Anna, daughters of the king and queen of Arendelle. Elsa, the older sister, has a magical gift: She can summon ice and snow. (A troll later asks if she was “born” or “cursed” with this power, one of many lines hinting at an allegory for LGBT people. The answer: She was born that way.) After an accident, though, Elsa’s parents come to view her power as a curse, and they encourage her to keep her difference hidden from the rest of the world. “Conceal; don’t feel,” they tell her, and she attempts to do just that, withdrawing from the world to wrestle alone—with her secrets, with a powerful sense of guilt, and with this part of herself she doesn’t fully understand. All of this happens very quickly in the early part of the film, but as a gay man, I found these brief scenes resonating with me in a powerful way. I know that feeling: The sense that not only what you’ve done, but what you are, is something terrible, shameful, and abhorrent to your own parents—but you have no idea how to change it, and you don’t know if you can hide it forever. A later scene, in which Elsa must make it through a coronation ceremony without letting anyone glimpse the truth about herself, is positively gut wrenching. I know that feeling, too, and all too well. It’s how I felt year after year, at every family gathering, in every church service, any time I was in a social setting and people were asking about my life and whether I’d met any cute girls lately. Recurring lyrics in Elsa’s songs highlight this struggle: Don’t let them in, don’t let them see Be the good girl you always have to be Conceal, don’t feel Put on a show Make one wrong move and everyone will know… “Conceal, don’t feel,” indeed. But what’s interesting about Frozen is that it’s not, ultimately, Elsa’s story. It’s mostly Anna’s, her younger sister. Kept in the dark about her sister’s secret, Anna doesn’t understand why Elsa has grown so distant from her. She feels confused and shut out, but the more Anna reaches out, the more Elsa pulls away, afraid of what would happen if the truth were known. Any of this sounding familiar? It’s a common story in families where one member discovers themselves to be gay, bi, or trans. And that’s part of why I love this film. Because as you relate to one side of this equation, you also get to experience the other side, and you can see what a challenge it is for all concerned. Eventually, of course, the truth comes out, and everything blows up into an emotional—and literal—storm. Driven by panic and self-preservation, Elsa leaves Arendelle, setting off on her own journey to learn about the parts of herself she’s been afraid of for so long. Finally free of everyone else’s expectations, Elsa sings the song that is sure to be an LGBT anthem for years to come: The snow glows white on the mountain tonight Not a footprint to be seen A kingdom of isolation And it looks like I’m the queen The wind is howling like this swirling storm inside Couldn’t keep it in; heaven knows I tried… Don’t let them in, don’t let them see Be the good girl you always have to be Conceal, don’t feel, don’t let them know Well, now they know… Let it go, let it go Can’t hold it back anymore Let it go, let it go Turn away and slam the door I don’t care what they’re going to say! Let the storm rage on The cold never bothered me anyway… It’s funny how some distance makes everything seem small And the fears that once controlled me can’t get to me at all It’s time to see what I can do To test the limits and break through No right, no wrong, no rules for me I’m free… Let it go, let it go And I’ll rise like the break of dawn Let it go, let it go That perfect girl is gone… You want to know why so many LGBT people run away from the church and/or distance themselves from their families? This is why. After years of trying to be “good” by hiding the truth, sometimes the only way people know to cope is to let go of those pressures and stay away from anyone they fear might judge them. And yes, sometimes people go overboard. “No right, no wrong, no rules for me” isn’t a very healthy life philosophy in the long run. But if, when you watch this film, you can experience the tremendous relief Elsa feels in this moment, then you can understand why this is such fresh air after years of “conceal, don’t feel.” Finally! She can be herself! What Elsa experiences as a refreshing release, though, hits Anna like a punch to the gut. After all these years of wanting to be closer to her older sister and knowing something was wrong, she learns the truth only in time to watch her sister run away and cut off all contact. Anna wonders to herself the same things many family members of LGBT people wonder to themselves: Why couldn’t she tell me the truth? Did I do something wrong? Did I push her away somehow? Why won’t she talk to me now? Anna sets out on a quest to find her sister and bring her home, but Elsa is all too happy to leave Arendelle and everything about her past behind her. All those years of locking away her emotions have made Elsa bitter. She’s ready to be selfish for a change, and she doesn’t want to go back. Now look: I’m not saying Frozen is a “gay movie.” It’s a fantasy story, an escape from reality, just like, say, X-Men. But just as the creators of the X-Men films admitted that they drew intentional parallels between the film’s mutants and real-life LGBT people, I’m pretty sure that the parallels in Frozen were deliberate (though Disney wouldn’t likely admit it, for obvious reasons). Still, you can enjoy Frozen perfectly well without thinking about any of this. But what I’m suggesting is that there’s an extra layer of meaning here for LGBT people and their families—a chance to get a peek at how these challenges feel on the other side. In an interview about the film, Idina Menzel—the voice of Elsa—talks about how the complexity of her character can teach us to develop empathy for others. That’s really what it’s all about, isn’t it? And, I’d add, perhaps the ultimate resolution of the story (no, I’m not going to spoil it here) will provide some food for thought about how we can, and should, treat each other. So… who wants to build a snowman?

I don’t know if I’m 100% on board with the title of this post and absolutely everything it says, like how by just watching this film a straight person could suddenly understand any gay person they know completely, but it does address a lot of my same feelings towards the film and what it is about.  I also saw Frozen (over 10 times) and thought it could definitely be a big metaphor and encouragement for coming out.  I especially noticed these hints and started viewing it this way the second time around. For example, the author of the tumblr post, Justin Lee, writes “A troll later asks if she was ‘born’ or ‘cursed’ with this power, one of many lines hinting at an allegory for LGBT people. The answer: She was born that way.” There are also many references in the film about having to repress your true self. Whether these messages were intended to be perceived this way by the creators or not, it reminded me of when we watched The Celluloid Closet in class and screenwriter Arthur Laurents said, "I think all minority audiences watch movies with hope. They hope they will see what they want to see. That's why nobody really sees the same movie," but also how in Professor Kohnen’s article on queer spectatorship, she discussed how straight viewers take pleasure in seeing queerly and vice versa. I think there can be a wide range of interpretations of this movie, but all with the same message that it is fine to stray from the majority and “norms,” whether that is heterosexual norms or anything else. Be yourself and love yourself! Also, this is the best movie ever and I had a Frozen themed dinner for my birthday on Friday. I’m 23, so?

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“As far as scripts go, the roles of women standing alone on their own as whole, real, full people are few and far between.” – Leighton Meester is acknowledging & reiterating to us the plethora of half-assed female characters in Hollywood and the scarcity of legitimate ones. It seems as though Meester has no interest in pursuing such roles & participating in such absurdity where women are used merely as tools to aid or provoke something in the more complete & significant male character. Hurrah! 

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In this blog post, the writer, Hannah Walker, expresses her frustration with how we have to recognize and applaud media text with strong female characters because it is such a rarity. She says she longs for the day where the phrase, “Strong Female Characters” will no longer be a part of conversation, but instead just the discussion of good characters vs. bad characters, regardless of their gender. She then goes on to explain that there is precise definition or requirements of what makes a strong female character, nor should there be because doing so would create an isolated trope with boundaries that should not exist. There should be variety, she says. She then entertainingly illustrates the relationship between Women In Fridges & Manpain. She ends by expressing how she is fed up with “female characters being reduced to plot devices with boobs” and that it is time we give female characters an equal amount of significance and depth that is given to male characters.    

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-       The Manic Pixie Dream Girl is the cute & bubbly character that enters the life of a brooding male & to help him to get out of his funk & enjoy life & probably end up as some sort of hero. This is great for the dude, but the woman is given no real or significant life of her own… she is merely a tool to aid this gloomy, “manpained” hero in fulfilling his destiny & discovering himself or his purpose… again, while her purpose consists simply of just that.

-       This illustrates the point Budd Boetticher makes, “What counts is what the heroine provokes, or rather what she represents. She is the one, or rather the love or fear she inspires in the hero, or else the concern he feels for her, who makes him act the way he does. In herself the woman as not the slightest importance.”

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Hahaha OH LOLLO <--Louis nya smeknamn

21:50 Igor: Där fortfarande? 21:58 "but even if you had sent tweets to harry or louis mentioning larry, you still wouldn’t deserve hate. No one deserves hate, no matter what." hAHAHAHAH 22:05 gaah! nya tweets från Louis! 22:25 Louis tog bort sin Larry is bullshit-tweet :O OMG weeeirder and weeirder "And now to finish on a good note :) ive clearly flipped on twitter today. I'm sorry to any REAL fan of ours that I've offended. " "I love all our true fans so fucking much! That's a promise ! I assure you all I'm always true to myself ! #embarrassingtweet"

Jo, Igor, tweeten är kvar! Man måste bara kolla på "with replies" för att se den... /Ida

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Louis tweets

Oj, oj, oj, oj. Drama llama. Kan bara säga att jag är väldigt glad att jag inte är Louis just nu? /Ida