Why Happy Memories Sadden Us?
Looking back to the happy memories of our youthful days brings a feeling of nostalgia. Feeling nostalgic often precipitates extreme sadness. Subsequently, we have this strong longing to live in the past more than in the present. Finally, the past becomes an ultimate obsession and our heart starts crumbling. We then ask ourselves why happy memories have so much power when breaking hearts. Happy Memories Are Overwhelming If the days of youth are spent well, we create memories we love to immortalize. As each day passes by, time buries them in its sands. Most often than not, time buries them to an unfathomable deep as if nothing ever happened. Many years later, the stockpile of memories hits us all at once. We miss these happy memories so much that they morph into grief somehow. Thinking about a fun-filled summer, one romantic rain shower, and so on makes us wonder where the people whom we (once) consider(ed) dear are now. Despite the burnt bridges or the preserved ones, a growing urge wants us to relive these memories. Moreover, we often suffocate from the desperation of transforming the past into present. The tales of our innocence are not as complex as the lives of the adults. And, we just want to rid all the complexities we experience in the present. Thus, we become transfixed at something that is impossible. This event is not only limited to happy memories. In fact, sad memories also have their ways of overwhelming us. Sometimes they even disrupt our reverie of happy memories. From this, our sadness heightens even further. Accepting Memories as They Are Memories are extremely addictive, especially the happy memories. But, we must learn to accept that these memories are nothing more than just mere memories now. The only thing left to do is to cherish them. Grieving over the days the youthful days only leaves us devastated as they morph into an obsession. If you feel missing someone whom you shared a significant past, try reaching out to them to catch up. You can talk about the good old days like they only happened yesterday. Allowing sadness to take over as you reminisce sweet memories may poison these memories. Hence, you have to start looking back at them to help you weather whatever the storms you are in. Happy memories are worthy of preservation. Mixing sadness with them turns them sour and often leads to burning of bridges. Accept the memories as they are, and smile because they happened. Read the full article