#psnlt

[feminon]

Sometimes traumatized people express that they have qp attraction/desire a qp relationship because it's difficult to explain to people the reality of our needs and limitations as survivors of abuse/trauma especially if we are at an early/denial phase of our recovery. Telling someone "I would like a relationship that is not a 'serious' relationship" doesn't always cover that and often leaves us vulnerable, so yeah while qp as a term has some bad connotations in terms of the integrated slur+hetace people being freaks some do still have a use for it and it rly confuses me that its considered a term that just straightup shouldn't exist.

[tpera]

Life has come to a series of standstills at the moment but. I did have fun being Jadzia (as Miss Honey Bare) for a day

[feminon]

Ok some thoughts bcz I've been mulling over this but its always difficult for me to put this shit into words

There are many things tht set off my alarm bells but the biggest is probably people trying to push for intimacy+commitment w people and then getting nasty+guilt tripping when told no, or when they aren't given the attention they feel they deserve irregardless of the needs of the person they're demanding it from. Its a big red flag, it tells me either "this person is inexperienced in close interpersonal relationships with differing people and expects their needs to be everyone else's needs" or "this person is wilfully/unconsciously abusive and manipulative and has learned that to get what they want from someone who doesn't want it, they have to make it their problem"

Living as a person of abusive parents that's the literal nightmare scenario! We're so likely to just roll over and accept that we owe anyone but ourself our undivided time and energy even if it harms us, or even if we're literally not capable of giving it. The punishment that comes from being imperfect or """selfish""" with our own time and selves is horrific to us so we put ourselves thru that hell for people who 5/10 have no real compassion for us and are driven entirely by their own need for validation and control.

And I hate how common/unquestioned these sorts of dynamics can be.

I have some hope, because I know I'm guilty of that mindframe - I know I've unlearned it to the degree where I don't freak out when people don't give me the time I am convinced I need, and I have had friends/ex-friends who have learned too. But equally I've known people who have been so far gone that they even manage to convince themselves that the person they're demanding so much of, who is incapable or unwilling, is actually the villain for witholding.

We talk alot about consent but it doesn't seem to have reached our casual/non-sexual circles, and we really need to be more aware of what we expect from people, from our friendships and our courtships and our partners.

[feminon]

I was bored so made a feminon symbol + agender girl symbol

Combining the Venus and Null sign, to signify the absence of traditional binary gender with the paradoxical alignment of womanhood, the astrological sign associated w the societal concept of “women” and “feminine” along with the Null Set, The Empty Set, The Void Set, defined simply by its lack of elements, the size of which is always zero.

Feminine + Nothing = Feminon

Some varieties under the cut.

These are nowhere near crisp and perfect but it was fun making them! Anyone who identifies as an agender girl or similar feel free to use with credit.

Pls don’t ask me to make aroace spectrum feminon symbols - while I’m aroace I don’t see my gender as interacting with that aspect of my identity and making feminon ace symbols would be about as useful as making polyamorous/vegan/kink feminon symbols. I’ve made orientation+intersex variants simply because those are aspects tht I find relevant to my gender.

Lesbian

Gay/Pride

Bi

Pansexual

Trans

Non-Binary

Agender

Intersex (Older Variant)

Intersex (2013 OIIA variant)

[tpera]

I feel like.......vulcans being depicted w green skin is a mixed bag because while I have absolutely nothing against people playing with green blush/soft green undertones to vulcan skin (in fact i love that a lot), its so incredibly lazy to see someone just slap green on uninhibited All The Fucking Time as if that's just how its supposed to be in all its monstrous uniformity. While my first thoughts when I see this are usually "Oh the artist just needs some improvement, they've decided to simplify vulcan characteristics down to a stereotype bcz its easy" "that's a stylistic choice the artist has chosen even though its not realistic and true to canon" "this artist probably has no idea the antisemitic implications of drawing this" its not, the end of the world its just boring and slightly uncomfortable for me, a jewish person, to see that be such a common Cheat for drawing vulcan skin tones. And yeah, with everything else antisemitic that's tied to the development of vulcans it is fucking insulting having goyim for the umpteenth time squall "green skin isn't antisemitic!!!!! I've never ever ever heard of that stereotype before and seeing as I've just decided I am an expert on antisemitism and jewish people ur just an angry manipulative jew making problems for us humble fanartists" I've heard it, shut up, you're wrong. Depending on the lighting+episode if we're talking TOS the green undertones of Spock's skin are (usually) subtle, that's the difference between vulcan makeup and say fucking, the orions. The heavy 60s makeup can make it seem more, but ultimately its green undertones meant to indicate that vulcans have green BLOOD, not green PIGMENT. Humans aren't pigmented according to the colour of our blood, we have shades of melanin that then occasionally have pink undertones due to the variable flow of blood, that are more visible if you happen to be on the paler side. Same goes for vulcans. Unless you draw Kirk beet red in every instance where u draw Spock green the "but vulcans have green blood" thing is just, plain annoying. In the Abrahms movies, Zachary Quinto doesn't even have the same makeup that Leonard Nimoy did in the original trek, and I still see artists paint Zachary's Spock w a broad green brush. Which again, none of this is hugely fucking bad it just feels lazy and gets ten times more annoying when the mentions of antisemitism are met with complaints and angry denial. You've never heard tht green skin can have antisemitic undertones? Especially when said character you're depicting is inarguably jewish in origin? Oh hey that's okay, we're telling you now. What you decide to do with tht information is up to you but insulting us and claiming we're making stuff up is just hilarious at this point. Bottom line artists drawing Spock+Vulcans w green skin isn't the end of the world, but pretending it is anything else but lazy/a choice to deviate from canon (which is ok, it would be completely harmless if it wasn't for the antisemitic thing) and meeting the genuine statements regarding its slightly antisemitic nature with angry denial and accusations is ludicrous

[tpera]

"Cardassian apologism" is a statistical error. Tora Ziyal, who never did anything wrong ever, is an anomaly for cardassians and shouldn't be counted.

[tpera]

I bet you've never heard that giving jewish people different noses in art to what they have IRL is antisemitic as well, so you can stop giving Brent Spiner characters upturned button noses please.

[feminon]

I love....mine gf...my geef if you will