#r0mance

[gurguliare]

berrysphase said: I confess I go to the wall for grant/justin

OH I REALLY LIKE GRANT/JUSTIN but, unfortunately, in pretty much the same mode as i “enjoy” ned/cat stark: i would read a million scenes of them separately interacting with villains who want to badtouch them. each permits a flicker of concern for his partner to blacken the edges of his paper mask!

[amenablearmageddon]

the term 'kink' generally implies that it g0es against the n0rm and s0cietal c0nventi0n

in timelines where pr0paganda fr0m the empire is rampant and pe0ple are t0ld t0 participate in quadrants, b0th c0ncupiscent and c0ncillat0ry, in a particular manner lest they be c0nsidered despicable and perverse, then certain techniques when used in c0ncillat0ry relati0nships are l00ked d0wn up0n and in fact c0nsidered disgusting. pe0ple hide certain preferences in c0ncillat0ry relati0nships f0r the fear 0f being c0nsidered perverse 0r abn0rmal 0r just because it might upset/disc0mf0rt 0thers.

in a s0ciety like this, yes, i feel the w0rd 'kink' is appr0priate

i never meant t0 imply with the w0rd that there w0uld be sexual c0nn0tati0n 0r that id be discussing sexual pale relati0nships 

if it makes pe0ple unc0mf0rtable th0ugh ill refrain fr0m using the term and c0me up with a different tag that pe0ple can bl0ck. feel free t0 tell me if its b0thering y0u.

[amenablearmageddon]

i think ive menti0ned it bef0re but the ashen quadrant is a little different fr0m the 0ther r0mances in that y0u d0nt usually feel r0mantic inclinati0ns t0 the third leaf bef0re entering the relati0nship.

usually y0ure just l00king f0r s0me0ne y0u b0th kn0w wh0 y0u think will d0 a suitable j0b. its a l0gical decisi0n.

h0wever that d0esnt mean that it remains c0ld, unfeeling, and l0gical. even th0ugh y0ure breaking up an0ther p0tential r0mance, ie the unwanted kismesitude, that d0esnt mean it has t0 be unr0mantic either! s0me 0f the best auspistices are dev0ted t0 the 0ther leaves 0f their cl0ver and d0 feel r0mantic affecti0n, whether it be m0re pale-leaning like a three pers0n c0ncillat0ry affecti0n 0r m0re black-leaning like a three-way irritati0n.

s0me fam0us (0r infam0us) auspistice techniques inv0lve very intimate c0ncillat0ry settings and activities s0 d0nt think y0u have t0 c0mpletely cut 0ut r0mance just because y0ure g0ing ashen!

[deadallalong-blog]

OOH, SOMETHING I CAN ANSWER, BRAVO. 

A LOVE TRIANGLE IS EASILY ONE OF THE MOST OVERUSED AND YET STILL VERY EFFECTIVE PLOT DEVICES WHEN IT COMES TO MOST ROMANCE MOVIES/NOVELS, EVEN FROM THE VANTAGE POINT OF SOMEONE WHO HAS SEEN HIS FAIR SHARE OF THE WATERED-DOWN HUMAN VERSIONS OF SOME OF THE CLASSICS. APPARENTLY ONE PERSON TRYING TO DECIDE BETWEEN TWO EQUAL LOVERS IS UNIVERSAL, WHO WOULDA THUNK IT.

EXCEPT IN MY CULTURE IF YOU WANT PEOPLE TO EAT UP YOUR LITERATURE AND OR FILMS, THE POPULAR GRUB TO GO WITH INVOLVES A PLOT WITH AN UNHEALTHY SEASONING OF QUADRANT VACILLATION. NOW, YOUR PRIMITIVE HUMAN TRIANGLES ALTERNATING BETWEEN YOUR DEFINITION OF FRIENDSHIP AND FLUSHED ADVANCES ARE ABOUT AS COMPLICATED AS THOSE MOVIES GET OTHER THAN THE FEW OTHER PREDICTABLE TWISTS I’VE SEEN.

LET ME INTRODUCE YOU TO THE HOT BOWL OF FRESH STEAMING CLUSTERFUCK THAT IS A TYPICAL TROLL ROMANCE MOVIE.

A VACILLATION OF ABOUT FOUR IS THE ABSOLUTE MINIMUM. THE MORE THE BETTER SO LONG AS IT DOESN’T BOIL DOWN TO PEOPLE SCREWING AROUND ON EACH OTHER. THERE CAN BE PASSION BUT WITHOUT FEELING YOU’RE GOING TO LOSE A LOT OF FANS. NOT THAT THERE ISN’T GOING TO BE INFIDELITY. PEOPLE AREN’T GOING TO WATCH SOMETHING THAT DOESN’T HAVE SOME FORM OF CONFLICT OR ROMANTIC TENSION. THAT’S ABOUT AS INTERESTING AS WATCHING SOMEONE GRIND THEIR NAILS ON A CHALKBOARD WHICH, GRANTED, MIGHT END UP IN AN INTERESTING FIGHT OVER WHAT-THE-FUCK-ARE-YOU-DOING-MAKING-THE-MOST-CRINGE-WORTHY-OF-NOISES-I’M-GOING-TO-POP-YOU-IN-THE-SCHNOZ SORT OF ORDEAL, BUT YOU CATCH MY DRIFT.

THE QUADRANTS THAT HAVE THE MOST FOCUS ARE OBVIOUSLY REDROM AND BLACKROM, BUT THERE’S OFTEN SOME FLIPPING FROM PALE TO RED THAT THE RECEIVER OF THE FLUSHED FEELINGS IS BLISSFULLY UNAWARE OF, AND THEN PLOT DEVELOPMENT GOES ON ECT ECT. AND THEN THERE’S USUALLY A PERSON OR TWO TRYING TO UNSUCCESSFULLY KEEP BLACKROM FROM GOING ON BUT AUSPISTICES AREN’T VERY WELCOME IN A DRAMA, AT LEAST NOT FOR LONG.

REALISTICALLY, IT WOULD NOT GO DOWN SO DRAMATICALLY. CHANCES OF SOMEONE MURDERING THEIR MATESPRIT’S OTHER POSSIBLE SUITORS WOULDN’T BE MUCH OF A SHOCK CONSIDERING YOU NEED YOUR QUADRANTS TO REMAIN ALIVE WHEN THE DRONES COME KNOCKING. OF COURSE THAT BACK BACK WHEN MOST OF OUR VIOLENT BLOODY HELL-BENT SOCIETIES STILL EXISTED, BUT WHEN MOST OF US DON’T HAVE TO FACE THAT IN ADULTHOOD IT REALLY TAKES THE PRESSURE OFF.

FICTIONAL ROMANCE ASIDE, YOU PROBABLY DO NOT WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN A TRIANGLE OR QUADRANGLE OR OTHERWISE. IT’S A LOT OF BULLSHIT. I HAVE BEEN IN A LOVE TRIANGLE, OR AT LEAST WHAT I ONCE PERCEIVED AS A LOVE TRIANGLE, AND APPARENTLY AT THE TIME I THOUGHT IT MIGHT PLAY OUT LIKE ONE OF MY MORE IDEALISTIC MOVIES BUT SOMEWHERE ALONG THE WAY I REALIZED I WAS A FUCKING IDIOT, WHICH IS STILL PRETTY TRUE FOR ANY PAST VERSIONS OF MYSELF.

IT SEEMS LIKE SOMETHING THAT WOULD BE AT LEAST INTERESTING TO PARTICIPATE IN BUT THERE HAPPENS TO BE A CATCH. SOMEWHERE ALONG DOWN THE ROAD WHEN YOU’RE TOO INVOLVED TO JUST DROP ALL OF YOUR RESPECTIVE, ACCUMULATED EMOTIONAL SHIT AND WALK AWAY, ONE OF THE THREE PEOPLE IN QUESTION (OR MORE IF YOU’RE GOING FOR THE CLUSTERFUCK APPROACH) WILL EVENTUALLY REALIZE THAT ALL OF THIS “GLAMOUR” AND “MYSTERY” AND “FUN” BOILS DOWN TO ONE THING: SOMEONE IS GOING TO LOSE. SOMEONE ENDS UP ALONE AND FLOUNDERING.

AT THAT POINT IT’S TIME TO SHOW YOUR CARDS. A LAST BOLD ROMANTIC GESTURE, IF YOU WILL, TO FIND OUT IF IT WILL LEAD TO ANYTHING. I WOULD NOT RECOMMEND ACCIDENTALLY GLITCHING A UNIVERSE BY YOUR OWN HAND WHILE TRYING TO MAKE THE STARS ALIGN WITH THEIR NAME ON A PARTICULAR DATE BECAUSE SHE PROBABLY WON’T EVER SEE IT ANYWAY. GO MORE SUBTLE THAN THAT. FLOWERS, CHOCOLATES, A ROMANTIC DATE TO A PLACE THEY’D ACTUALLY LIKE.

WHEN ALL ELSE FAILS, YOU TRIED AT LEAST. YOU’LL MOVE ON WITH TIME. AND THERE’S NOT A WHOLE LOT ELSE YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT, BUT DON’T GO TRY TO FIND SOME REBOUND LOVER. THAT’S JUST GOING TO END IN MORE BULLSHIT PILED ON YOUR LAST REEKING BEHEMOTH LEAVING OF AN ATTEMPTED RELATIONSHIP THE LAST PERSON OF YOUR QUADRANT-RELATED LEANINGS LEFT BEHIND, AND IT TAKES EVEN MORE TIME TO GET THAT CLEANED UP AND SITUATED BEFORE YOU’RE READY TO TRY AGAIN AT A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP.

I DON’T REMEMBER WHAT MY POINT WAS, OTHER THAN TRYING TO LIVE OUT THE PLOT OF A MOVIE ISN’T GOING TO GET YOU ANYWHERE FOR THE MOST PART. 

#BUT KARKAT #THE CROWD CRIES #WHAT OF WILL SMITH MOVIES #THAT'S A TOPIC FOR ANOTHER TIME #AND THE ONLY AUDIENCE THAT IT COULD POSSIBLY RELATE TO IS WILL SMITH #UNFORTUNATELY THE COOL VERSION OF HIM DIED WITH THE REST OF MY SPECIES #THEM'S THE BREAKS.