#radqueer rant

[zanemaxxing]

i need people to be more okay with transharmfuls being nice. being fun. being whimsical. liking cute things. being good people. caring for others.

being transharmful isnt always towards everyone around you. we can love people too. we can be affectionate and kind and loving just as much as everyone else.

and we are just as deserving of love and affection as transharmed or other transid users. not all of us are big scary standoffish people.

[thehiddenfangs]

Ignore the fact I accidentally posted this on my blog instead of the radqueer tumblr community-

@feroxanima1 This is a post meant to answer your questions since a comment has a character limit!

Hello, hello! At your service! I won't be able to answer everything, but here are the important parts!! (^.^)

(I also admire the fact you are trying to educate yourself from both sides before being an asshole to either)

"While it supports paraphiles, many of those are pro contact and actively seek victims."

This is half-true. Yes, we do support all paraphilias as we support all identities, but that doesn't mean we are against consent. The entire premise of Radqueer-ness is that although we accept any identity, we are completely against abuse and nonconsentual harm! Pro-contact and anti-contact honestly mean different things to different people. Some think of it as sexual contact, some as just general contact. To put it simply, we do not accept MAPs who rape toddlers, but we do accept MAPs who do not plan on hurting anyone despite being in general contact with kids. That is to say, there will definitely always be bad apples in any community, meaning there are deffinitely some individuals who do seek victims. We do not like those apples.

"It's beyond the line of social norms to the point of being harmful. Such as people transitioning to be disabled."

While yes, some do transition into being disabled, it isn't inherently harmful. This might sound crazy to say, but this is consensual harm. If they are aware of the risks, they are aware of what they do and don't want, and they accept these conditions... then so what if they want to transition? If they really want it, why shouldn't they? Telling a transabled person that they cannot transition because they don't "know what it's actually like to be disabled" (which is bullshit because tansabled ≠ able-bodied) is like telling a transfem person that they don't "know what it's actually like to fight misogyny".

"It actively encourages others to accept or express their paraphilia."

Yes. We do encourage others to accept who they are. Why wouldn't we? Darkshipping is fictional, and if tagged properly, it is harmless. I would much prefer someone darkships to vent and let their urges subside in a safe space than them prompting to actually noncon hurts others. As for the expression... It is just the expression of attraction. Expressing your paraphilic attraction is just like expressing queer attraction. The only difference is that paraphilic attraction is less accepted and more "out there" compared to queer attraction. This is because, AND THIS IS IMPORTANT... Attraction does not equal action.

"If there are any other common misconceptions that I missed, feel free to tell me about them and explain them."

"All raqueers are pedophiles!" Is a common one. It is illogical and false. First off, not all radqueers are pedos, there is zero evidence saying that we are. Second, using pedo and predator interchangeably is stupid as most predators are not pedos and most pedos are not predators. Pedophilia is an attraction, being a predator is a disgusting action.

"Trace/Transrace is racist!!" I don't even know where antis got this from. Just because you feel like you should be a different race doesn't mean you hate the race you were born into. Once again, gonna use Transgender as an example: A transman isn't misogynistic for transitioning, and a transwoman is not misandric for transitioning.

"AAMs (adult-attracted-minors) are being groomed!!" This is another common misconception. There's a lot of minors in the community, and a lot identify with the AAM label. That does not mean they are being groomed. They are simply expressing attraction to older people, this doesn't need any influence just like being lesbian doesn't need any influence. An AAM doesn't have to be groomed by an adult to be AAM. A lebsian doesn't have to be groomed by a woman to be lesbian. I also see that a lot of antis who use this claim have the "17? Oh you're so innocent! 18? PEDO PEDO PEDO" mentality. That is very wrong and simply stupid. You aren't all innocent and sweet all your life and you don't suddently turn into a grooming predator the second you turn 18.

I hope I answered your questions with enough clarity!! ^^

[lanternintheforest]

INTRO

Hi chat

This is @candlelightsthevoid new account because my other one was annoying me🥹✌️

I go by any name except my birth name, call me whatever

I'm a genderfaun neoboy, my main pronouns are star/star's, they/them, it/it's, pup/pup's, shrike/shrike's, xe/xir, and he/him. But you can call me any non fem ones

I'm aroace and Omni (pref women n nonbinary folks)

I'm trissRussianGerman

Transbritish

I'm transcannibal

Transdeadsoldier

Trans horns, tail, and wings

I'm a Yumeshipper (list at end)

I'm a fictionkin with 7 kins (ask🥹)

Doubles welcome

I'm 15, my birthday is February 6th, celebrate it on the 7th tho (one of my kins birthdays

Anti c radqueer (I am however pro cc)

Proshipper and dark shipper (oh no, boo fuckin hoo)

Follow your own dni

F/O LIST

ROMANTIC

Tippy doorman (husband, non sharing)

Shosaku katsura (boyfriend, non sharing)

Caine (husband, non sharing)

Astolfo (from tcsov, fiance, non sharing)

Parents

Ōugi Mori (less preferred father, sharing)

Fyodor Dostoevsky (preferred father, sharing)

Louisa May Alcott (adoptive mother, sharing non romantically)

Francis Scott Key Fitzgerald (adoptive father, sharing)

Siblings

Gin (from bsd, sharing non romantically)

Pavitr (sharing)

Children

Yumeno (sharing non romantically)

Kyouka (sharing non romantically)

Akutagawa (sharing)

[transkissed]

anti's are actually fucking cruel. I got told to go fucking overdose again because I said I was transage and i was into hypnosis. like I don't want to be an adult. I don't want to mature. I just want to be who I was. I'm sorry for existing I can't fucking help my attraction to shit. I'll just try to fucking kill myself since that's what people want.

[yourlocaltransfemradqueer]

I JSUT FOUND OUT AN OLD FRIEND OF OURS WHO BLOCKED US OUTTA NOWHERE LAST YEAR WITH NO REASON CHANGED AMD BECAME A RADQUEER AT THAT TIME??? THEY COULD VE JUST TOLD US BRO I LOVE RADQUEERS 😭😭💔💔💔💔 NOOO FRIENDDDDDD NOW IM EVEN MORE SAD THAT THEY LEFT I HATE EVERYTHING

[baptizedinsculk]

Paraphile ≠ Predator.

I am so tired... I want to be open about who I am. I want to be open and talk about how I cope with things. But I can't. I have no where to talk about it. Discord restricts me every time. Antis on Tumblr will term my account. I just want to talk about things I struggle with. I just want to talk about how I have found coping mechanisms. I just want to talk about how I found ways to be a safe person. But I can't. I can't talk about how my wife and I genuinely believe we should have siblings. I can't talk about how he helps me cope with my paraphilias. I can't talk about how I am a paraphile and how that interacts with my job. I can't talk about how I have found coping mechanisms. I can't talk about how I have found ways to be a safe person to those around me. How is that wrong? How is it wrong that I want to help others find ways to cope? How is my personal relationship with a consenting adult is dangerous? How is my personal relationship with a consenting ADULT is disgusting?

It.. almost hurts more that I can't be open about it. It makes me feel dangerous. It makes me feel like I'll never be able to escape. It makes me feel like I will inevitably do something terrible. It.. makes me question what the point of me doing all the work is. What's the point of I'll be seen as dangerous anyway? What's the point if people will assume I'm a predator anyway? What's the point? (The point is not hurting another being and being someone safe)

PARAPHILE ≠ PREDATOR

Being a Paraphile does not equal being a Predator. Paraphiles are not inherently predators.

That is such a bad and dangerous mindset...

[deitykinn]

something i need to work through and be more open minded about is trans-autistic people. for me, although i know cognitively that it's not true, it feels like they're purposefully invalidating and appropriating my struggles because they feel like it's aesthetic or quirky to be autistic. i understand that that's not right and it's not usually why people identify as transautistic, but it's hard to emotionally connect that idea to my cognitive brain.

their identity isn't my issue and it isn't harming anyone. my personal experiences don't overwrite theirs and vice versa. they're allowed to feel that way and label it how they please, and that's not implying that i'm not valid in my struggles of being cis-autistic.

they also could be using the label as a self diagnosis thing because they can't get diagnosed and feel they aren't valid enough to actually claim being cisautistic.

there's so many other reasons like: having another disability/disorder/struggle that mimics autism, having a fully autistic family and having traits due to it without being autistic, a deep connection to autism, an appreciation, etc. none of these have anything to do with me, it's not my issue.

does anyone who identifies or knows someone who's transautistic have any other reasons and experiences for why they're transautistic? i'd love to know so i can further understand and accept you guys!!

on a side note, working through biases makes me euphoric cause i'm trans-open-mentality so i'm transitioning further!! YIPPEEE!!

[transkissed]

I hate when anti's are like

" proshipping bad ! you're shipping 2 characters that have a wide age gap and aren't they related ?? "

ITS FICTION ITS FUCKING FICTION VANESSA !!!

LOOK

FICTION.