#red flag poll

[apolladay]

Is it a red flag if a potential long-term romantic partner doesn't have a driver's license

1) Yes

2) Not a "red flag" but something that gives me pause

3) Unsure

4) Not in and of itself, maybe in combination with other things

5) Not at all

6) Cannot even imagine looking for a partner even with all my imagination

Is it a red flag if a potential long-term romantic partner doesn't have a driver's license?

Yes

Not a "red flag" but something that gives me pause

Unsure

Not in and of itself, maybe in combination with other things

Not at all

Cannot even imagine looking for a partner even with all my imagination

Voting ended onMar 21

[apolladay]

What part of HetaDanganStuck is the biggest red flag for someone to be into as a media still in 2026?

- Homestuck

- Hetalia

- Dangan Ronpa

- Idk any of these

- Results

What part of HetaDanganStuck is the biggest red flag for someone to be into as a media still in 2026?

Homestuck

Hetalia

Dangan Ronpa

Idk any of these

Results

Voting ended onMar 26

[apolladay]

Is it a red flag to not have any friends? • Yes • No • Nuance

Is it a red flag to not have any friends?

yes

no

nuance

Voting ended onJun 29

[apolladay]

Is it a red flag to not use any kind of social media?

Yes

No

Nuance

Is it a red flag to not use any kind of social media?

yes

no

nuance

Remaining time: 5 days 21 hours

[apolladay]

Poll: Do you think reading a lot of historical fiction is a red flag?

Yes

No

Yes, but only if it's on a particular era (ie WWII)

Bald/Nuance

Do you think reading a lot of historical fiction is a red flag?

Yes

No

Yes, but only if it's on a particular era (ie WWII)

Bald/Nuance

Remaining time: 6 days 16 hours

[apolladay]

Is this* actually a red flag?

1) Absolutely not that is 100% a normal and proportional reaction

2) It's not ideal but nobody could really be *blamed* for reacting like that

3) Concerning but hints at how on edge those gfs must be = how shitty the relationship is

4) At least alarming, those bfs need to have a GOOD talk with their gfs (post-apology)

5) Scary as hell, therapy NOW, possibly break-up

*Just came a cross a Tiktok with clips of boyfriends "pranking" their girlfriends by posing with props like mannequins and wigs on sticks in a way to suggest they had invited another woman into the house for infidelity purposes (sitting on the couch watching TV with an arm around the doll; pretending to kiss, etc.).

That's not the thing I wanna ask about though - the "fun" of the videos was to film the gf's reaction in the few seconds before she realized it was a doll.

In more than one case the gf IMMEDIATELY started kicking the bf's ass screeching and almost tore the doll to shreds before realizing that it was a prank.

Regardless of the shittyness of the prank, and how much basis *that* is to give the bf the boot, uhm, is that reaction something the *bf* should be concerned about...?

Is this* actually a red flag?

Absolutely not that is 100% a normal and proportional reaction

It's not ideal but nobody could really be *blamed* for reacting like that

Concerning but hints at how on edge those gfs must be = shitty relationship

At least alarming, those bfs need to have a GOOD talk with their gfs**

Scary as hell, therapy NOW, possibly break-up

Voting ended onJan 22

*Just came a cross a Tiktok with clips of boyfriends "pranking" their girlfriends by posing with props like mannequins and wigs on sticks in a way to suggest they had invited another woman into the house for infidelity purposes (sitting on the couch watching TV with an arm around the doll; pretending to kiss, etc.).

That's not the thing I wanna ask about though - the "fun" of the videos was to film the gf's reaction in the few seconds before she realized it was a doll.

In more than one case the gf IMMEDIATELY started kicking the bf's ass screeching and almost tore the doll to shreds before realizing that it was a prank.

Regardless of the shittyness of the prank, and how much basis *that* is to give the bf the boot, uhm, is that reaction something the *bf* should be concerned about...?

** (post-apology)

[apolladay]

Is it always a red flag for an adult to repeatedly tell a child that they're mature for their age?

Yes, red flag!

It's strange and can lead to bad behavior, but not inherently bad

It's good, actually

Results

There's an older teacher at my school... He's always offering to hang out after school, always giving me gifts and trying to praise me; "y'know, don't tell anyone I said this, you're the best kid in the entire school. we gotta stick together, alright?" ... I just try to ignore him because it makes me uncomfortable but some friends have told me this is a red flag... :/

Is it always a red flag for an adult to repeatedly tell a child that they're mature for their age?

Yes, red flag!

It's strange and can lead to bad behavior, but not inherently bad

It's good, actually

Results

Voting ended onJun 25, 2025

There's an older teacher at my school... He's always offering to hang out after school, always giving me gifts and trying to praise me; "y'know, don't tell anyone I said this, you're the best kid in the entire school. we gotta stick together, alright?" ... I just try to ignore him because it makes me uncomfortable but some friends have told me this is a red flag... :/

[apolladay]

What does "red flag" mean to you?

Something that's automatic cause to end a relationship

Something that's inherently a bad trait, but not necessarily cause to end a relationship

Something that isn't inherently bad, but is a reason to be a bit more cautious of someone

Something else

I don't know/see results

I noticed I tend to answer "is (X) a red flag" polls a bit differently than most people do, and I'm wondering if that's because I use definition 3 and other people use definitions 1 or 2.

What does "red flag" mean to you?

Something that's automatic cause to end a relationship

Something that's inherently a bad trait, but not necessarily*

Something that isn't inherently bad, but is a reason to be a bit more cautious**

Something else

I don't know/see results

Voting ended onNov 8, 2025

* cause to end a relationship

** of someone

I noticed I tend to answer "is (X) a red flag" polls a bit differently than most people do, and I'm wondering if that's because I use definition 3 and other people use definitions 1 or 2.