Things just got REAL!!
We all have those dates that stick out in our minds – birthdays, anniversaries, etc. I am not good with dates, but there have been several lately that I doubt I will ever forget. October 31 will never just be Halloween, but it is now the date we found out that we were expecting triplets and December 11th, the day we met our birth mother and heard our daughter’s heartbeats for the very first time.
This past Monday we set before daylight to go visit our birth mother and accompany her to her next doctor appointment. Our 5.5-hour drive went by pretty quickly with Adam working on a paper and me jamming along to all the Christmas music on the radio. When we were about 10 minuets away and Adam closed his computer, I looked over and saw the excitement in his eyes. I asked if he was nervous and he responded, “it’s about to get real”. He was right, things got real; REALLY quick!! I had been texting our birth mother for the last week and we had decided to meet at the doctor’s office at 12:30. When our birth mother hadn’t showed up or responded to my text by 12:45 my panic set in and so did the tears. As excited and nervous as Adam was, he gently held my hand and told me that everything was going to be ok. He reassured me of God’s plan in this adoption and immediately calmed my nerves with his words “Faith over fear, Becky”. It wasn’t long before our birth mother came rushing into the parking lot and into the doctor’s office. We joined her in the waiting room and made small talk until we were called back. Adam and I started to step away as the nurses took her weight and blood pressure, but she insisted that we join her and be involved in the appointment. When we were finally taken to a room the three of us were really able to speak and get to know each other. There were no awkward silences, it was if we had been lifelong friends. We laughed, we talked about family, we looked at pictures of family, and we of course talked about the babies! The doctor came in and reviewed the notes from the specialist and spent nearly an hour with us. This is actually his fourth set of triplets and he feels confident that we will go past 30 weeks (we are praying for 35). Just when I thought the day couldn’t get any better he brought out the Doppler and let us listen to the heartbeats. I didn’t know that moment could get any sweeter until I turned and looked at Adam. The joy and amazement was written all over his face and eyes. This was the moment Adam went from just being a husband to being a daddy too. As he listened to the heartbeats of his three baby girls he didn’t have to say a word because his smile said it all. I have been dreaming of this day for so many years, I didn’t know it was going to look like this but now I couldn’t imagine anything different.
After the appointment, we went to eat with our birth mother and father and spent more time getting to know them. I wasn’t ready to say goodbye, but she was exhausted so we gave each other a big hug and made plans to see each other again for her next appointments in January. Our adventures weren’t over though because our attorney’s amazing legal assistant invited us to her home to meet two other adoptive families and their new blessings. It was so wonderful to meet other families at the end of their journey and see their beautiful angels. Adoption is beautiful and all of the adoption community is like a family; it is truly amazing.
We still have so far to go in this journey and I am sure that it will be full of ups and downs, but we are giving it all to God…the good, the bad, and everything between. He has given us a lovely birthmother - she is beautiful, kind, and is giving us the most incredible gifts ever; she is selfless and loves these sweet girls so much. Before we started this process, we decided that an open adoption was important to us and we couldn’t be more excited to call our birth mother family and to be connected not only during this adoption but throughout life.
So if you have been looking for us or are looking for us in the coming days, you can find both of us gathered around our phones listening to the sweet sounds of our babies’ heartbeats!! We hope you enjoy these sweet sounds as much as we have.
Thank you for sharing this journey with us and for the prayers. Please be praying for our sweet birth mother and our daughters. Because things just got REAL!