5/5/2005
Ruth Ann looks weak. She said the shunt to the lungs was the worst experience yet, medical wise (She has 4th stage ovarian cancer). She told Peg "I don't want to die alone." and "pick out some of my clothes to take". We debate "Should we tell her (death is close?") No. she has a good attitude. doctors say she has a few months or less. The Doctors told John that Ruth Ann will become paranoid in the end.. Shes on oxycotton and some other drug.
Lisa gave me a computer tour last night. Interesting, but, frustrating. (My first time seeing You tube, or, having someone google my name. I did not come up on google.)
Peg had to help Ruth pull her legs up into bed. Tim, Craig, Donna, Bob, Lynn, Miranda and Blake and 3 other old friends stopped by. Ruth was with it, but, at one point, hit the sleep of death.
She told Jim, Donna and Peg she wants to be made up and dressed for people to come and see her (after she dies). Then, have a party at the house and later, spread her ashes at Refugio beach.
Tim will buy a palm to plant there for Ruth Ann.( at Refugio) It will be planted next to Carrie's tree ( Carrie was Ruth Ann and John's daughter, who was killed by a drunk driver in 1982. Carrie was probably in her 20's at the time).
To be continued in tomorrow's blog
Notes: Lisa was Ruth Ann's daughter in law. She was married to Jeff, Ruth Ann's son. Tim, Craig and Donna were friends' of Ruth Anne and John. John Was Ruth Anne's husband. Bob, was Ruth Ann and Johns other son. He was married to Lynn. They had two young children , Miranda and Blake, a girl and boy. Peg was Ruth Anne's cousin from Tennessee who had come to stay with John and Ruth Ann to help take care of Ruth Ann until her death.
Refugio Beach, north of Santa Barbara California, was a favorite get away for Ruth Anne and her family.
