@roleplayhelps - so to start off, i want to say that i think the fact that you have now multiple times said that you doubted that people were abuse survivors is disgusting ( x, x ) - that said, i’m going to try and focus on some of the other issues that i have with how you’ve handled this situation w/o allowing that to influence me ( as much as i can anyways )
first of all; assuming that people are taking in the same news sources as you is extremely ignorant - i consume mostly local news / news relevant to my region of the world, just out of a desire to not worsen my mental health ( there’s enough going wrong in the world without trying to worry about it all ) and generally that doesn’t include hollywood news, because i’m not interested in that. i’m sure there are others who do the same.
secondly, you deflect a lot. people are upset because you called them scum of the earth and publicly called them out instead of addressing it privately? deflect ( x ) and point out that you’ve removed the ones you deem ‘innocent’ as if that fixes everything. someone point out that abuse survivors might not appreciate your tactics. deflect ( x ) and act like you don’t know why they’d be upset. you know what abusers commonly use as a method of control and emotional manipulation ? deflection, forcing others to question the validity of their feelings / situations by calling them liars or refusing to listen to them all together - it also helps takes attention away from their actions.
thirdly, you tell people to do their research and educate themselves but repeatedly claim that johnny depp almost had his finger cut off by amber heard and refuse to look into it yourself when people tell you that you’re wrong. you repeatedly also refuse to acknowledge that this is NOT a clear cut issue, and ignore that there were other witnesses who agreed that johnny was abusive towards amber - and that we do NOT have all the facts about what he is saying that she did. is it better to ban both of them? certainly, but nobody knows anything for sure despite what you seem to believe.
and then, i have a real issue with ‘i need explicit examples of where / how i’ve been out of line or it didn’t happen’ ( x ) - so what you’re saying is people saying ‘hey, it’s out of line to bring whole countries into the mix’ or ‘hey, you should have went to these rp’s privately’ or ‘hey, you shouldn’t call people the scum of the earth because you disagree with something about rp’ - isn’t an explicit example? ( x, x, x ) which people have done - in more or less words, perhaps.
finally, okay i need to discuss this as a survivor: refusing to believe people who say that they’ve been abused regardless of the setting / situation ( x ) makes you just as bad as the person that you’re trying to condemn. calling them liars, or dense, or hopeless or whatever and demeaning them is WRONG. they have stories & lives, are more than numbers or statistics and refusing to listen to them and then getting upset with them for deciding that the conversation isn’t worth having is awful.
anyways, if we’re cancelling abusers; we should probably cancel you since you’ve put on perfect demonstrations of several abusive behaviours!
ps. not saying i agree with any or all of the posts i linked - nor all of the anons / other people in the discussion.