neither i or you are inherent representatives for our identities and we are more than allowed to be ourselves at all times.
we should not be expected to joyfully pander to those who treat us with hostility and patiently sit through their malice just so we have a chance to disarm it and be treated with possibly a drop of decency.
fuck limiting your public interests, opinions, and thoughts just because someone decides how they relate to you is "suspicious" or "telling".
fuck being expected to explain your beliefs, your identity, and yourself just to gain "respect".
you do not owe people a prim and proper version of yourself, especially those who expect so and only so.