It really doesn't. I'm sure I could twist it that way, but let's be honest. As previously mentioned, I work in sales. And I adore it. To an extent. But it is a male dominated industry. Why, I'm not sure. But it is. Which means most of my coworkers are male. I'm OK with this. I prefer the company of men to women. We tend to have more in common and I usually don't have to attempt to understand fashion. But then there are some conversations I would rather not be apart of. Like the sexist ones. The guys I work with are pretty great. They are thoughtful, funny, and good for bouncing ideas around when I'm stuck. They're even good with advice about presents, dates, and jokes I can play on Ben. But occasionally it goes south quite quickly and I need to excuse myself from the conversation. Case in point, the other day I was talking to a coworker about Valentine's day. Ben and I have a whole romantic date planned that I am so excited for I can't help but talk about it. Romantic dinner, dancing, movie, and a carriage ride around downtown. My coworker looks at me and says "I know exactly how to make it perfect." Okay, I'm intrigued. "Let him be dominant. Have him take you to Victoria's Secret and pick out something sexy. Let him do whatever he wants to you. Make him a snack afterwards and bring him a drink. You'll get something nice out if it. You might even get a ring. A bigger ring. It'll give him a big ego boost." Wait... What? I'm not sure why this is still the idea of the woman's role. I'm really not. First off, I make damn sure Ben doesn't need an ego boost. He is my everything, my love, my soul mate, my darling, my king. And I tell him every day. I show him every day. Second off, while I agree there is nothing wrong with giving my significant other special treatment, it's still my body and my rules. No, you can't do whatever you want to me. That's not how this works. Third, if I am able to get up, walk to the kitchen, and get you a snack and a drink after sex, you didn't do your job right and therefore don't deserve a snack brought to you. Now, Ben has never expected such treatment from me because I take damn good care of him. And he takes damn good care of me. He is my king and I am his queen and we rule our Kingdom together as equals. We have a partnership. We split the bills, the work, the effort, and the responsibility. And, honestly, if it was really that good, neither of us should be able to walk afterwards. After explaining this to my coworker, he immediately backtracked, trying to say it could have been a nice change of pace. No. A nice change of pace would be both of us laying around watching movies together. A nice change of pace would be a quiet dinner alone at home. A nice change if pace would not be me bending over and letting Ben walk all over me because he's the man. And I recognize that a lot of people don't see this the way I do. And I'll get hell for it. But, let me ask you a question. If someone told your daughter to let a man do whatever he wanted to her, then told her that she needed to cook for him once he was done, how would that make you feel? And what would you tell her to do?