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The Dahomey Amazons were a military unit of female warriors who fought in the Kingdom of Dahomey from the 17th to 19th centuries. They were also known as the Agojie, Minos, or Ahosi.

Known for:

Fearlessness: The Amazons were known for their bravery in battle, whether fighting neighboring tribes or European forces.

Combat prowess: They were known for their effectiveness in combat and were often deployed on the front lines.

Protecting the king: They also served as bodyguards and palace guards.

Organization:

Each regiment had specific roles and weapons, such as archers, riflewomen, and reapers.

They were structured in parallel with the army, with a center wing of bodyguards flanked by separate wings.

Some accounts note that each male soldier had a female warrior counterpart.

Legacy:

The Dahomey Amazons inspired the Dora Milaje in Marvel's Black Panther stories.

They were also the focus of the 2022 film The Woman King, which featured a fictionalized account of a Dahomey warrior general.

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She drank whiskey, swore often, and smoked handmade cigars. She wore pants under her skirt and a gun under her apron. At six feet tall and two hundred pounds, Mary Fields was an intimidating woman.

Mary lived in Montana, in a town called Cascade. She was a special member of the community there. All schools would close on her birthday, and though women were not allowed entry into saloons, she was given special permission by the mayor to come in anytime and to any saloon she liked.

But Mary wasn’t from Montana. She was born into enslavement in Tennessee sometime in the early 1830s, and lived enslaved for more than thirty years until slavery was abolished. As a free woman, life led her first to Florida to work for a family and then Ohio when part of the family moved.

When Mary was 52, her close friend who lived in Montana became ill with pneumonia. Upon hearing the news, Mary dropped everything and came to nurse her friend back to health. Her friend soon recovered and Mary decided to stay in Montana settling in Cascade.

Her beginning in Cascade wasn’t smooth. To make ends meet, she first tried her hand at the restaurant business. She opened a restaurant, but she wasn’t much of a chef. And she was also too generous, never refusing to serve a customer who couldn’t pay. So the restaurant failed within a year.

But then in 1895, when in her sixties, Mary, or as “Stagecoach Mary” as she was sometimes called because she never missed a day of work, became the second woman and first African American to work as a mail carrier in the U.S. She got the job because she was the fastest applicant to hitch six horses.

Eventually she retired to a life of running a laundry business. And babysitting all the kids in town. And going to baseball games. And being friends with much of the townsfolk.

This was Mary Fields. A rebel, a legend.

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Sometimes, simplicity is just beautiful. A natural work of art

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UNDERSTAND WHAT IS COURTSHIP

For all the single men and ladies:

Having encountered and interacted with many singles, I observed with some level of sadness their gross ignorance about COURTSHIP. Therefore, today I write to explain and clarify singles on the subject matter.

WHAT IS COURTSHIP?

Simply put, courtship is a period of time where two lovers having decided to marry, are working towards marriage. At this level, a proposal would have been made signalling engagement or commitment by both lovers. Of course, at this level, both families would have been informed too.

HOW LONG SHOULD A COURTSHIP LAST?

There is actually no time frame with regards to the length of a courtship. However, a good courtship shouldn't be too short or too long. Relationship and marriage counselors, coaches and experts advocate a minimum of 6 months and a maximum of 2 years.

However, not every courtship has really adhered to this recommendation because of the unreadiness of one party to tie the knot at a chosen date, financial reasons, long distance relationships, academics, delay of parental consent, illness, etc.

Christian leaders strongly disapprove of very long courtships so as to curtail some temptations that come with very long wait.

WHAT IS THE TRUE PURPOSE OF COURTSHIP?

The real purpose of courtship is to get to know the person more and discuss and agree on all the salient issues that will help a marital experience.

Examples of what to do/ what you discuss in courtship are:

1. Meet the family of your lover

2. Know where he lives

3. Know your jobs

4. Discuss your spiritual lives

5. Discuss your career plans and their demands

6. Discuss the number of children you would like to have

7. Discuss your finances

8. Discuss every other issue.

9. Discuss how to manage the extended family

10. Discuss educational pursuits and their demands

11. Discuss the type, size, place and funding of your wedding

12. Pray often together for yourselves and your future together.

N.B: At this level of relationship, if you still have some secrets that may affect your marriage in the future, reveal them. For instance, if you have a love child, lost your womb, have a serious medical condition, indebtedness, etc., reveal that to your partner. A true lover sent by God will never look down on you, mock you, insult you or dump you. Rather, that lover will be full of compassion, admiration and respect for you. However, don't be afraid of seeing your relationship come to an end because you are honest. If someone is meant for you, they won't leave you.

WHAT YOU CAN DO AND WHAT CAN'T DO DURING COURTSHIP:

WHAT YOU CAN DO....

1. Pray together

2. Communicate effectively

3. Show care

4. Give each other career support

5. Encourage each other

6. Discuss your future together

7. Discuss salient issues

8. Read books and articles on relationship/marriage

9. Attend relationship and marriage seminars

10. Attend marriage counseling sessions with a counselor or coach.

11. Plan for your wedding and marriage

12. Foster a great understanding

13. Build a strong friendship

14. Be real to each other.

WHAT YOU CAN'T DO

1. No premarital sex

2. No sexually explicit chats

3. No pregnancy out of wedlock

4. No sending of nude pictures

5. No smooching, caressing or fondling

6. No French kisses.

7. No sleeping in the same room and on the same bed.

In conclusion, courtship should lead to the altar. However, should that not happen, no problem, please move on. Any courtship that seems to undermine your personal moral principles, religious beliefs and convictions should be discontinued.

Any courtship where commitment is diminishing and love is waning by the day should be discontinued. Any courtship where there are lies, distrust, dishonesty, fears, confusion and cheating should be discontinued because that can never be God's will for you. During courtship both of you should never ignore any of your salient issues. Discuss everything of importance to you and agree.

If you don't agree on them, that is, you can't find a common ground, there is no need to continue with the relationship. If your heart is full of fears, you don't have peace of mind and assurance from God towards that person, please end that relationship.

God's will for you in marriage is restful peace of mind, personal conviction and assurance from God, provable love and commitment towards you from your lover. Don't be afraid of losing them in courtship. Because a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.

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Although this took a lot out of me to create, it is the meaning of it. How often are our wounds hidden from others. We put on airs of being fine, but deep down, we are scarred.

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The toughest battle you will ever face is between what you feel and what you know.

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TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️

We don’t talk about childhood trauma enough, people are so quick to judge someone, when you have no idea what they have endured.

These images are dedicated to you, whoever you are, I pray that you find healing ❤️‍🩹

And I’m so glad that you keep pushing 👏🏾

I’m so proud of you.

Note: I did not paint these. I found this post and decided to share it here. So often we don't talk about the hurt but these pictures bring to light some of the hurt we don't want to discuss.

The person who generated these ai pictures deserves a bow and applause.

Thank you Miss Tabitha for sharing this powerful statement

These are not stolen photos. I’m sorry if I triggered anyone I just had to bring awareness and let you all know that I see you, I may not know your situation but I’m praying for your healing. thanks for all of the love