When a friend is discouraging
The other day, I met up with my friend whom I haven't seen for a while. We stopped contacting each other for a long time, but decide to hang out to catch up.
When she asked me what I'm doing with my life after graduation, I told her about my job, my plan to take the MCAT and apply in the future.
She scoffed and said, "Y'know how many of people I know applied and failed?" and proceeded to lecture me about why I should just give up in the most passive aggressive fashion.
Then, I remembered why we stopped contacting each other. She was NEVER supportive of my dreams and was always discouraging when we talked about our future plans.. She was always one of those people who feel better about themselves through the failure of others. Maybe it's her way to say "RIP THE BANADAGES NOW. GIVE UP". It might even be save a lot of pain for me, who knows..?
It's true that I might fail. It's true I may not go because of my background and financial disadvantage.
But y'know what. If I do fail, at least I'd know and never wonder about what could have happen if I didn't give up. Maybe I won't get in now, but who knows? Maybe when I'm older? If I already know this is what I really want, telling me to give up and bombard me with failure stories does nothing. Instead, a good friend should give suggestions on how that dream could be achieved.
Even if I fail, it's not the end of my life. I will find a different path and go back to it when I can. Life goes on as long as I decide keep moving.
Because I'm not giving up yet. And whoever you are reading this post, YOU SHOULDN'T GIVE UP EITHER because of something they said.
She's going to be the first one I'll tell when I get my first acceptance letter in the future..
