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WAA IM SO EXCITED FOR MORE PAGES

Then have this, as a treat. A small teaser:

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I envy your confidence in having one foot in the agere comm and the other in ABDL/APDL. I am non-conformative to both communities because neither one fully align with my viewpoints on diapers, regression, kink association, etc. That said, I do my best to be staunchly noncom (I juggle accounts with diaper art and non-diaper art), and I find it impossible to find a happy medium where I DON'T get constant hate or confusion from people. It causes intense anxiety and self-doubt. How do you propose I present myself in a way that people OUTSIDE the agere and AB communities understand without accusing me of having a fetish or unsavory intent?

This is a tough one, really made me think. I'm not the most eloquent with words, but I'll try:

In short, I believe what you're looking for is impossible without sacrificing a piece of yourself. Ultimately, I think you should just do a little soul searching and do what makes you happy. I've given my two cents (more like $20) below on what I think might help. My thoughts on how to deal with hate from both sides, what people may think, what community might be for you and so on. (More below the post, mentions of kink without being graphic. Very sfw but still a topic intended for adults.)

I think you can start to improve your confidence by realizing that communities like agere and abdl/apdl have no set definition, just a vague and general theming. They mean something different to everyone. Take for instance apdl (age play, diaper lover). The whole reason the acronym became a thing was because people felt that abdl was too specific. Yes it stands for adult baby, diaper lover, but a huge percentage of those in the community don't identify as either. They're babyfurs, they're caregivers, they're middle spacers. And yet so many people refuse to adopt apdl because they've felt at home in the abdl community for so long, and feel that in changing the acronym, they're surrendering something. Trying to appeal to the masses. They think it doesn't need to have a broader appeal, because the title itself shouldn't matter as much as the people who find a home in the community.

Or ageplay and abdl as a whole. Constantly assumed to be kink only communities when they aren't. Yet people keep regurgitating the same idea that they are. It's gone on for so long that it's just become fact to some people who have never thought to do a lick of research or get to know anyone in these communities. Agere folks often act as if they're "one of the good ones" when it comes to regression, as an attempt to distance themselves from possible kink assumptions. There will never be any approval from the general norm, so why should anyone bother trying to act holier than thou?

So in that sense, I think a lot of people in agere, abdl/apdl or adjacent communities are thinking too hard about the whole thing. In the end, aside from some slight variations (such as agere being more sfw and often focused on the therapeutic side), they're all really similar when you get down to it. From the outside perspective, it doesn't matter. Because those who don't get it, will always think it's weird, gross or even malicious. Yet at the end of the day, that's always a risk. You could be the most "normal" person ever, and still someone will think the wrong thing about you.

Everyone in the world needs to learn to give less of a hoot about what random strangers think about them. I know that's easier said than done. No one is immune to having their feelings hurt. It's a muscle you need to strengthen. A skill to hone. Where you must choose whether or not to let something get under your skin. Sometimes you might be fearful of people who will threaten you. Sometimes you might be unfairly banned or shunned. But I promise you, it really does gets easier the more you actively try. If you put in the effort, you'll eventually find that it doesn't even phase you anymore. I rarely bat an eye when I get hate, especially when the person clearly knows nothing about me. Honestly, in the end, it will only strengthen your conviction on who you are and what you believe. Less self-doubt because you realize how silly it all is. People will always feel the need to bring you down, it's truly unavoidable. But don't let the fear of death keep you from living.

That's also what makes communities so strong. They're the safety net that catches you when everything else in life pushes you down. So you don't need to do it alone. That's why I think everyone should find a community. Be it your own or a wider one in abdl/abdl, age play, or agere.

When I get hate, I like to turn it into a learning experience. Try to show compassion even if deep down you don't feel like the person is deserving of it in the moment. A lot of the time, they wont listen. It's nearly impossible to shake people of their beliefs. Sometimes however, people have a change of heart. Or often you'll help someone who was just scrolling and happened upon your post.

Sure it gets tedious, having to defend yourself, but I think it's better than just tolerating the accusations, hate and assumptions. It's also better than giving up the things you enjoy. Plus like I mentioned, there's always a chance that you're helping people.

Another big thing I want to say is that fe/tish and kink aren't dirty words. Puritanism is at an all time high right now. Even though you and others might not mean to, acting like it's something to be ashamed of is just pushing the narrative that it is. I think that trying to change people's views on /you/ starts with trying to change how people view kink. It might not be for me, for you, or for others. Yet instead of coming off like "Gosh no, I'd never be into ___ KINK!", just assure people it's not your thing but so long as it's between consenting adults and not involving you, it's normal. We all need to learn to say we dislike something without condemning it or putting it down. Remember, condemning kink is often a thinly veiled attempt at condemning queerness. It doesn't end at the things you dislike or find gross.

This is coming from a place of understanding. There was a point not too long ago when I nearly quit the art thing all together because I was so sick of people assuming I was this super, ns/fw, kink y person just because of my job. When I stopped drawing it however, I saw how much it hurt the people closest to me. It made them feel like I thought they were dirty, morally bad people for having kinks. It really changed how I approached conveying to people the person I am.

In short, you need to learn to just do what makes you happy. If you get hate, remember that these people do not know you. Use their comments or asks to teach or to better explain who you are as a person. Be gentle but don't let people walk over you. Though something like kink isn't for you, don't shame people for having them. Even if you're grossed out by them, it only serves to make you a "mean girl" and it'll only attract more people like that to you. Choose friends that accept the person you are, but who also hold you accountable. Labels are just that, a label. You can choose to align with one or not, but at the end of the day, they're more-so just there to help you find like minded people. Not a set of traits and rules you need to follow. Remember that no one person has the exact same definition on what agere, abdl, etc. is.

Just have fun and be kind to yourself and others. Always seek to understand rather than to be understood.

I hope you find what makes you happiest. Good luck and always here if you want someone to chat with.

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Life's Been Rough: Requests

I know I'm always open for requests but I wanted to put out a special ask for some new ones tonight!

Honestly life's been hard for my husband and I. We owe a lot to taxes, my mom's not doing great and is a huge stressor for me, not to mention the horrors of the world. We both work fulltime and don't often get a break.

So I want to ask for some fun, tadc / poppy playtime requests. I prefer loose direction, like a simple idea. It's hard for me to do something when I'm just asked to "Draw ____ little." with no real direction. Also bonus points for Zooble and Gangle or Lily Lovebraids TTwTT

And thank you all for being one of the only positive outlets in my life right now. I don't say it often enough but I really appreciate everyone who visits my little corner of Tumblr.

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YO! YOYOYOYOYOYO!

have you seen TADC epi 8?! What you think?!

I loved it personally!~ My only complaint is I wish it was longer! More spoilers below the cut:

I think some of my favorite bits were seeing the little cafe in the Circus, the weird ways Caine chose to retaliate, all the creepy/horror/body horror, and getting to see Scratch and some of the others finally! And of course that sweet Abstragedy pandering in the beginning >B]

I honestly need to sit and think with it more and do another rewatch. I think it's probably my favorite episode so far or maybe tied with 5. I love that Goose consistently just keeps me guessing and that Glitch does a fantastic job at baiting people into coming up with theories. Like genuinely, I think they're intentionally trying to make people go down specific theory paths. You can't convince me they weren't doing that with Bubble. Speaking of, I loved that moment in the beginning of the episode, with Bubble whispering to Caine, 100/10.

I honestly have no theories or anything. I also don't want to be all "omg Caine!" because I really don't think he's dead. Honestly since episode 3, I figured everything would be fine, but I assumed they would never leave the Circus. And I'll be honest, I don't think it would be as satisfying if they did. Goose's answer to the "what do you want people to take away from TADC" answer pretty much instilled this in me.

I've seen a lot of criticism and people are obviously allowed to feel how they feel, but I have none myself. If this is how the show went, then it's how Goose wanted it to go and I'm just happy to watch their vision unfold.

The main point I see people make is wishing it was more character driven or that other characters had more screen time. Especially after the whole "Pomni and Jax are the main characters" thing. That's valid, I mean I too wish I got just an endless amount of screentime featuring literally any of the characters. It comes from a place of love, but I really think people need to step back and realize this is not about us. It's an art piece created by Goose and given life through wonderful talent. From my knowledge, Glitch never forced Goose to fit their concept into 9 episodes. And if it was you, wouldn't you want people to respect your vision? That you made with your characters? That you made?

Sometimes I think this is partially the result of social media brain, on top of media literacy. Where artists think they need to create things to be consumed. That mass appeal and doing what people want of you is just what artists do. But art is made for you first and foremost. (or in this case, Goose) If others enjoy it, that's great, but it's not the reason art should be created. Plus, the best part of less screen time means you get to fill in the gaps. The looser things are, the more you can play pretend!

I'll just say, no amazing show ever ended neatly wrapped up in a bow. If it doesn't leave you thinking, wanting more of the world and the characters, was it even any good?

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Why do you have a diaper fetish?

Because life is boring and you gotta stop being a wet blanket.

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I have a few questions about the new comic (but I totally understand if you can’t answer all of them) I’m also sorry if you already answered these and I just couldn’t find them.

Where would we be able to read the comic? When is it scheduled to come out? Is there an upload schedule? Will it be shorter or longer? Will the characters actually be using the diapers?

Sorry for all the questions! I’m honestly just really excited :) and again I completely 100% understand if you can’t answer some of them

Ugh let me see, in that order: Where would we be able to read the comic? Currently it's released on my substar. Once I manage to get 2 pages done a month, I'll probably start posting one page a month publicly (here on Tumblr). If I get to $2000 in monthly subs, I'll release 4 a month! But since my substar does have adult content on it, I don't feel comfortable sharing it here. Even though I don't allow interactions with minors, I know they still stumble across my page. So if you want a link, DM me!

When is it scheduled to come out? Is there an upload schedule?

As of now, I don't have a set schedule. It's just as many pages as I can do a month after all my other obligations, but there's always at least one page a month. As for when do I post here publicly? Good question! I should set a date haha. That'll be easier next month once I'm not doing holiday gauntlet.

Will it be shorter or longer?

Longer! About 50 pages with 7 bonus pages if I get to my substar goal of $2000 (my monthly rent if anyone is wondering).

Will the characters actually be using the diapers?

Possibly! It depends on if I reach that goal or not! Either way, if it is included, I'll be keeping it tasteful and it'll make sense with the plot.

And no problem! Honestly it just keeps me inspired to work on it when people are excited for the comic! So thank you for asking :3

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Wow wow your art is SO AMAZING!!! I wanted to say tho, I don't think you should be crossing the streams between ageplay and agere, those are two separate communities you know. And it can be very upsetting for people when you put your posts in both tags. Respectfully, I think you should keep your posts in the ageplay/ABDL/APDL tags and not the agere/age regression tags. I really do genuinely love your art and your page tho, keep up the good work!

I don't think you mean any ill will here, so replying without an ounce of spite.

I appreciate you input but I'm not going to change how I do things. They can be separate communities and still share a ton of overlap. Agere is a community that was splintered from age play and abdl/apdl. There's always going to be overlap and what I draw can be enjoyed by both.

Also here to say I don't post in both tags. Maybe it's someone else reblogging my art with those tags but I have yet to post any art to the age play or abdl/apdl tags. Not that I mind if people do! I welcome it.

I'm always here to encourage people do what they can to curate their feeds. If you don't like what I draw, absolutely block me. But I'm not hurting anyone here. I'm not subjecting anyone to look at something different that you wouldn't already find in the tags. And if just seeing my art with those tags is upsetting you, I'm afraid you might just need to find a safer, healthier way to go through life. Maybe the internet isn't for you.

Edit: Genuinely this isn't meant to be a clap back or anything. I just genuinely worry for people who do not have the emotional stability to see something that squicks them out and just move on from it. If you get so emotionally upset from something THIS INSIGNIFICANT, you should really look for something better that gives you pleasure. Or work on that thing that upsets you. You have to work to improve on your ability to look past the small stuff in life. If you don't, life's going to stink forever.

I want everyone to learn to curate their spaces. Strangers don't owe you anything. They shouldn't have to change for you when you could easily block and walk away. Just because someone likes something that makes you uncomfortable doesn't make them a bad person. Sometimes those people share your spaces. You should welcome them, let them stay, but keep to your side of the road and just hope they extend you the same courtesy.

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Please don’t interact with age regressors if you’re an ABDL blog, kink doesn’t belong in agere spaces

Nah. And it's not exclusively a kink c: You can come off anon and was can talk about it like adults though.