#self help tag

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See, you better watch your self degrading because otherwise your beloved viper won't have a single finger left to caress your beautiful body.

wait a minute wait a minute wait a minute. I know this isn't my wife because she isn't even on Tumblr right now...how is this so effective? I literally read this and went oh god you're right and stopped my current picking at my arm which I didn't even realize I was fucking doing....

I hope you enjoyed my thought process journey in gifs...because damn you caught a bitch off guard.

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Hiya hey, I’m Hunter!!

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[maknaeera]

Dealing with intense emotions

Learning to recognize, control, and understand your feelings is the first step to dealing with them when they become too much. Recognize when your emotions are getting in the way. Think about the following statements when youre having an episode.

• I often feel frustrated.

• I get angry easily.

• I cant do much to make things better.

• I worry a lot.

• I have made many mistakes.

• I feel overwhelmed.

• My feelings can change from minute to minute.

• I get upset easily

• I wish my life could be the way it was before.

Are there any corrolation between these items? How are they similar.

• These are all things affected by anxiety, worrying, getting frustrated/flustered. Self doubt relates to many of these items too, feeling as if ive made too many mistakes, not feeling like i can do much about things, thinking i was a better person in the past.

Recognize your feelings while they are occuring. Are they listed above? If so take a second to step back and remember what they feelings relate to. Think about why you are feeling the way you do, why is that feeling so intense? Do you just need to process something that upset you? Take a step back think it through effectively. Are the thoughts going through your head destructive or constructive? If they are destructive recognize that they are and try to rethink them in contructive ways. Remember that it takes time to learn how to rethink situations and dont allow yourself to become frustrated that you are still getting thise intense feelings.

• Remember that ups and downs are a normal part of life.

• Remember you have the power to control your emotions.

• Stop the cycle before your emotions get too intense. Watch out for early warning signs of intense emotions. It’s harder to calm down once they get out of control.

• Be hopeful and positive.

• Count your blessings.

• If you cant do something ti make the situatioms better, dont make it worse.

• Intense emotions are often relates to overwhelming stress.

• Dont say or do the first thing that comes to mind.

• Wait and deal with problems when yoy are calm.

• Remember no one can solve all their problems themselves.

• Recognize the challenges yoy are facing are hard, and recognize how hard your working on fixing them.

Understand it is okay to talk to people about things. Even if you just need someone ti be your voice of reason.

[maknaeera]

Reminder

Dont romantize your pain. Its isnt beautiful. It isnt poetic. You arent in a movie. You are a real person with real emotions. Dont keep yourself hung up on everything that has happened to you. Work through your pain. Heal yourself. Be an active part of your own recovery.

[maknaeera]

Identifying stressors/coping with stress

It is easier for someone else to recognize your stress than you, so listen to them.

Psychological signs

Inability to concentrate or make simple decisions

Memory lapses

Becoming rather vague

Easily distracted

Less intuitive & creative

Worrying

Negative thinking

Depression & anxiety

Emotional signs

Tearful

Irritable

Mood swings

Extra sensitive to criticism

Defensive

Feeling out of control

Lack of motivation

Angry

Frustrated

Lack of confidence

Lack of self-esteem

Behavioural signs

No time for relaxation or pleasurable activities

Prone to accidents, forgetfulness

Increased reliance on alcohol, smoking, caffeine, recreational or illegal drugs

Becoming a workaholic

Poor time management and/or poor standards of work

Absenteeism

Self neglect/change in appearance

Social withdrawal

Relationship problems

Insomnia or waking tired

Reckless

Aggressive/anger outbursts

Nervous

Uncharacteristically lying

Rethinking stressors

Identify your stressors

Think about why they are stressing you out

Is the reason for the stressor something you have control over or no?

If it is controllable actively work to fix it and retrain yourself to react differently and healthily.

If it is not controllable, learn to slow yourself down with meditation, positive/logical thinking. Train yourself to no overthing situations you cannot change.

My stressors

Money - i overthink the time i have to save my money and i stress about every dollar i spend when in reality i have so much time and im doing fine.

Politics - politics can wear you down. Seeing all the hate and fear in the world is a lot on anyone. Learning to take a few days away from it all when it starts to become too much.

Letting people down - i overthink every situation im in causing me to become defensive too quickly and come off as rude and full of myself. I care so much about how the people that matter to me feel about me that i think no matter what im gonna fail, causing me to obviously fail. In reality i dont give myself the chance to not fail. And thats how i have to fix that. Believing in my abilities to be a better person and to be there for people when they need me.

Work - work is work and is always gonna be a stressor whether you love it or not. Learning to destress on my days off would help this.

Coping with stressors

Taking a step back from stressful situations to rethink it.

Practice positive thinking even when its hard to think like that. One thought at a time.

Participate in peaceful, stress relieveing activities in which you can step away from the stressful situations going on in your life and think them through. Taking walks, meditating outside on a nice day, go swimming, lay under the stars.

Avoid drug and alcohol use. This only supresses those stressors. You dont actually work through them, but push them down.

Talk to others who will listen without judgement about your stressors. Sometimes you just need to get things off your chest to stop overthinking. Just make sure youre not making your friends and family your therapist. And take the advice they give you, even if you disagree at the time.

Try your best to keep healthy. If youre having trouble eating, pack yourself healthy snacks to eat throughout the day. As cliche as it is, how you treat your body reflects your mind.

Take a break. If your brain is running 90 miles a minute and so are you, your brain cannot slow down to process.

Take mental health days. Dedicated a day or a few hours a day to slow yourself down and relax.

Exercise, its a healthy way of working through overpowering thoughts.

*Coping with stress and anxiety takes time. You have to work on it everyday and constantly think about how you can learn from your experiences and better yourself. Accepting things take time to work themselves out*

[maknaeera]

Being a better person

1. Think about your word choice.

2. If youre referencing yourself a lot, stop. Reference us or them, think about how what youre saying is affecting them. Think about how they are being affected by the issues they bring up.

3. Are you victimizing yourself? Stop. It isnt always about you. Youre not always being attacked. Critism is inportant and so is conflict. Its the only way you grow as a person. Be accepting of it when it comes your way.

4. Are you responding with defensiveness? Stop. Hear the other person out. They arent attacking you their talking to you.

5. Every conflict isnt an attack, its a chance to better yourself.

6. Think about how your words are affecting them, and not how their words are "affecting" you.

7. Accept when youre wrong. Own up to it. Youre not always right and you cant tell yourself youre never wrong.

8. Are you tempted to lie? Dont. There is never any reason to lie. You cant talk yourself out of trouble youve caused.

9. Accept consequences with grace. Dont have self pity for the mess you've made. Its okay to be sad but its not okay to unheathily project those feelings onto others.

10. Are you trying to find reasons to turn into excuses? Stop. When youve hurt someone your past and your mental illness isnt an excuse. The reasons behind what you did are not excuses. They are reasons, they dont get you out of a mess theyre why youre in a mess. Youve hurt someone, not your mental illness. Its youre fault, not anyone elses.

11. Is what youre saying pressuring someone to feel a certain way? If it is then stop. Its okay to talk about things but its not okay to make people feel like they have to pity for you, or have to do stuff for you. No one owes you anything.

12. Are you bringing up private things that are not your own? Stop. It is not okay to ever do that. You wouldnt out someone for being gay, why would you out someones personal private life. Its a natural instinct to do that to take the pressure off yourself but thats not what happenes. Youre just an inconsiderate ass who talked about someones private life.

13. Make sure all your reactions are motivated with care for the other person involved and not on your own self interest.

14. Dont let yourself become conceited. Being vain is a deadly sin for a reason. You just make yourself look like a smug asshole when youre full of yourself.

15. Love more and never allow yourself to hate.

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Sundrenched

[thisismyvesselforcomfort]

There was a time in my life where I had to ration listening to this song because it was such a powerful self-help thing for me that I could not risk it becoming less helpful