Insecurities
You try to look in the mirror, but as quickly as you do it, you look the other way. You don’t like your hair, it is just terrible going into one hundred different directions. You hate your nose either; your lips are too tight. And body… you don’t even wanna think of your fat hips because you start to panic too fast while focusing on them.
Later on, you start to scroll down your Instagram feed. You haven’t added any photos since your brother’s friend called you “a fat pig”. You just look at your friends’ photos and feel empty. Omg, she’s so pretty, you think and feel regrets about the world because you cannot be like her.
Insecurities. Everyone has them. You are not the only one, trust me. And I’m pretty sure you totally can relate to the description above. We all are going through this. It only seems to be so perfect from the social media perspective, but more often than not there are just little sweet lies.
Once again you have to realize that everyone has some insecurities. There is no one person in the world who would claim that s/he is perfect, flawless. Even celebrities claim there are some aspects of themselves they would like to change. However, they have to pretend they’re very self-confident because it is imposed on them. Nobody is perfect. We are made this way and it has to be accepted if we want to be happy.
Look at it this way: imagine yourself passing by a girl with a perfect, according to you, body. However, she hates her legs because she thinks they’re too short. How would you feel if somebody told you she really hates them? I’m sure you would be very surprised because a few seconds earlier you thought about her perfection. The same is about you (even when it seems to be impossible at the moment); somebody may really love your smile though you hate it. But it is only your subjective point of view and you have a 100% control over it. Think of it each time you look in the mirror and see something you don’t like in the reflection.
You accept other people, right? With all of their disadvantages? You love your boyfriend/girlfriend though s/he pisses you off too much, but you forgive them. Forgive yourself. Accept your flaws.
Self-acceptance is not equal to thinking that each aspect of you is perfect. It wouldn’t be possible to happen; self-acceptance is about loving yourself the way you are being made: with those “fat” legs (it’s only your opinion! The boy sitting next to you loves them!), “ugly” face, “terrible” hair. Loving yourself means loving others and vice-versa!
