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Please be patient with those who have a hard time articulating how they feel. Many of them grew up in environments where no matter what they said, or how they said it, it was not enough to be heard. Their default to feel safe, is to stop sharing. Again, patience please. — Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwait #patience #feelings #expressingFeelings #sharingFeelings #natePostlehwait https://www.instagram.com/p/CZrn1OGuxCq/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Thanksgiving Emotional Preparation Before the Facts Arrived at Front Door

conclusion I came to in some emotional preparation journaling before my relatives came over for thanksgiving last night. might be of use to someone else, might not, gonna share anyways.

Here was my conclusion after going back and rereading what I had written:

My feelings will also still remain, but I could try more to participate by reminding myself of the facts and maybe trying to see those facts a little differently. (aka, a bit less emotionally)

the facts were these:

1. 3 relatives are coming for Thanksgiving celebration in 2020

2.The day is November 26, 2020 -- it’s Thanksgiving day. That’s just a fact.

my emotional responses, which I had the choice of trying to change, were these:

1. I feel weird about them. I feel weird about who they are and how they operate in the world and it confuses my brain and whatnot.

2. I’m pissed off that my padres did not confer with me about their plans. (it’s their plans honestly tho, their house, their rules, their plans -- that’s what I would say after I go back and reexamine the aforementioned facts probably)

3.Moreso, thanksgiving I feel people about there in reality get hype about it and idk why because I sort of just hate it. Let’s be real, people are fucking moronic.

4. Also like, covid exists and still we have not cancelled are plans.

So, do my feelings change the facts?

Honestly no. I was upset and angry and just stewing and it was a lot of projection towards others. It’s not their problem if I feel upset and terrible and angry and negative. I can feel those things for myself and recognize that those feelings do not change the facts. So instead I literally tried to “appreciate” that is, just be in a state of Thankfulness like how normal people do. That’s probably why they enjoy Thanksgiving anyways. So, I was just in appreciation and when my uncle asked me why I wasn’t so talkative I said “I just do not feel very talkative.” But i ended up talking a bit more anyways, and we had a good time.

So there, emotional preparation is a good way to prepare yourself for upsetting social situations and work on your emotional intelligence and also just enjoy life a little more, try not to be so salty and horrible all the time. I have certainly felt a bit salty and horrible this week.

Ok bye now.