"Proposal Fail" by @shaydechelle
So Monday night on the beloved VH1 train wreck reality show “Love & Hip Hop”, we were finally able to witness the aftermath of the moment we waited for since this show debuted: Chrissy proposed to Jim Jones. I have issues with this, and lemme tell you why.
First and foremost, I’m not trying to knock any woman who wants to take matters into her own hands when it comes around to her man. More power to y’all bold bitches. My issues are not so much with the proposal, but with the delivery and the shit that happened afterwards. I don’t quite understand the ultimatum she tried to give Jim after the fact. She basically tells him “if we stay engaged for more time than I’m comfortable with, I’m leaving.” As if he’s supposed to give 1/4th of a damn when he didn’t propose to HER, meaning he wasn’t ready to be married or even CONSIDERING the shit. He also told her he wasn’t about to start planning a wedding. So she pretty much put herself out there and proposed to the dude, only to end up right back in the same situation. The only thing that’s changed is she’s $12k in the hole after buying him that big gaudy ass ring. Her explanation on why she proposed is below.
I did it to let him know that I love him enough and I am proud and happy enough to display that to the world. That’s what that’s about. Eventually, we will get married. Am I rushing it? No. Of course people have opinions about me asking him to marry me, but I felt it was the right thing to do. I love him enough and I wanted to share that. It’s how I felt and what I wanted. You need to know what you’re doing with your life. You need to have direction. If that thing doesn’t happen the traditional way, it still needs to happen. So why waste your time? I figured I would cut to the chase. What are we waiting for?
Read more: ‘Love & Hip Hop’ Star Chrissy Lampkin Speaks On Decision To Propose To Jim Jones | Necole Bitchie.com
The point I want to make is this: trying to force someone’s hand into getting engaged or married, ESPECIALLY a man, is a relatively bad idea. I don’t think anyone should ever feel obligated to make a lifelong commitment to someone else when they’re not ready to. If someone I was dating got up in front of a room full of my family and friends and proposed to me when I made it clear that I wasn’t ready to go down that road with them, I’d be PISSED. I can tell she really loves Jim (for whatever reason), and I respect her for not wanting to just settle into some common law live in situation. However, a mutual conclusion needs to be drawn in regards to marriages. If you don’t want to marry me, I DAMN SURE don’t want to be married to you. I’m sure there’s a handful of females in America who watched this episode and are sitting in their living rooms trying to devise a plan to propose to their baby daddy. NOT THE MOVE.
Additionally, I don’t even have the strength to tell y’all how I feel about Fab not giving ANY types of fucks about showing up to be in Emily’s family portraits. Lord.
-@shaydechelle