#she doesn't

[eatingyarn]

i saw sten in the veilguard artbook and got highly inspired.

[badassindistress]

I made this dress a decade ago, but I didn't have much occasion to wear it. Last winter I handed it down to my younger cousin who dreams of owning ballgowns.

And now I'm getting pictures of her strutting through Venice in my glamour dress. I'm so proud😭

[leninthestarlight]

I have an appointment for five tattoos but like I could always get two more right? I need someone to tell me it's a bad idea to ask for two more, because they are screaming at me!

[helluvabinge]

OK, I'm seeing posts about this pop up on my dash again, which means it is once again time for The Talk.

Imagine, if you will, that you are just getting established in your career. You don't have a lot of money, but you meet a guy who offers to help you out. He has connections that could help you move up in your career, but he's really only willing to provide those connections if you start up a sexual relationship with him. He continues to hold these connections over your head in exchange for sexual favors and manipulates you into believing that this is the only way you'll ever succeed in your career. You feel dependent on him. You feel trapped. It takes years to finally break free of this toxic relationship, but even after leaving, you carry around the trauma of that experience.

Some time after this experience, you see a silly little cartoon about a guy who's just getting started out in his business. A wealthy man with lots of connections reaches out to this character and offers to help him with his career... in exchange for sexual favors.

You might feel uncomfortable, which is valid. You might feel triggered, which is valid. You might hate that relationship from day one, which is valid. You might never want to watch that show again, which is valid. You may continue to watch the show in hopes that the character you identify with gets a chance to say "fuck you" to the other one, and that's valid. You may be very disappointed when that moment never comes and the show takes the relationship in a completely different direction than you were wanting or expecting, and that's valid.

It's NOT valid to project your relationship onto the show's characters and pretend like that interpretation is the only valid interpretation of the show and the characters. It is ESPECIALLY invalid when canonical depictions of these characters and relationships directly contradict the interpretation and are substantially different than the relationship you are comparing them to.

So when someone yells at Viv because they have projected their own trauma onto a similar, but substantially very different situation in one of her shows, it's not Viv's job to coddle them or to simper and apologize. When she says that it's totally fine for them to feel like that, but they should recognize that they have a wildly different interpretation than many other fans and that the way they are interpreting her show appears to be lacking in basic media literacy, she's not wrong and she's not out of line.

[swan2swan]

OH SHE DID THE THING

[rory-rants-n-stuff]

Why does my best friend hate me?

[theseuscloud]

Okay but can we all agree that Alice has a tooth gap? Please