I really do wish transmascs on the web would stop hearing "You obviously have zero struggles and just want attention," when I say transandrophobia/transmisandry isn't real.
Most of the time what I'm actually trying to say is much more convoluted than a simple finger point. It's usually something more like:
"The word you're using to describe your feelings is confusing and comes from a place of misinterpretation. I think you should really reasses the situation you've put yourself in from using the word you chose to use. What is the grammatical definition of this word? The rhetorical one? Why is it that I can get two very different answers from different transmascs who also use this word? What hurt are you trying to describe? What do you have to gain from this word?"
But I don't say it nicely most times so I get why people get defensive. Still, I think you should change your hearts and actually think on the damage you're doing. There's a lot I regret from when I was younger and trans that I've moved past and improved on. This can be one of those things for you as well.