#sistergood

[danafrancisrolle]

you're probably asking yourself why is this chick holding on to a @thewellnecessities bag for dear life like that. 😳 HA. stay tuned to the blog tomorrow to hear why! OR, click the link in our profile to get a little preview. it's really a stash of G-O-L-D, but i'll let you be the judge of that. 🤐😎💰⚡️😛🎊 #bluhazl #sisters #sistergood #thewellnecessities #realfood #vegan #cleaneats #lifestyle #inspire (at Atlanta, Georgia)

[jpdarling]

These are a few of my favorite things🎶 . . . . . #metime #thursday #nationalcoffeeday #pingame #sistergood #strangethings #strangewomensociety #strangelady #thingsthatmakemehappy #selflove #selfcare #loveyourselfie #busybee #butfirstcoffee #me #momlife #abm #vsco #vscocam #goodvibesonly (at La Barista Espresso)

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Se volete rivivere la magia di #sistergood vi aspettiamo giovedì 14 a San Teodoro #santeodoro in piazza! Non mancate

[dphiemiami]

[hyperrrmouse]

Okay, things I need to say: First, I'm not at my happy weight/size, but I'm content. Second, I used to be way thinner (I'm a 6/8 right now I was a 2/4 for a long while). When I was my thinnest I chose not to judge or to talk smack, a lot of my weight loss was due to a very negative situation I was in, as well as an inability to afford enough food for myself.  I also believed that negative talk/emotions would bring me back to a size 14 (karma thing).  I however noticed that my goal of positivity was not shared by everyone.  Especially not by women larger than me.  I had thought that when I was larger thin girls would make fun of me, guys do.  However these girls must do that only online or behind my back, because I've never heard boo from any of the thin women.  When I was thin though, I heard larger women all the time scoff things like: "Look at that skinny bitch." "Ugh, she probably thinks she's so hot." "Men don't like women like THAT." (really hurtful considering what I was going through). "REAL women don't look like that." "Real women have curves." What really got me was the "REAL women" comments.  I had women in my face complain about the sizes we didn't have at the store I worked at for awhile.  I did the best I could to help, direct them to online shop, or shops in town I knew would have their size.  They would become frustrated and angry and attack me, telling me most of the country doesn't look like me and that I wasn't a real woman because I don't wear a real woman size. If I tried to explain how frustrating it was to a friend/coworker, I was told things like, "oh poor you, you're thin." And no one understood that it was out of control.  I had to buy all new clothes, spent my savings on them, and 2 months later I had to repeat the process.  It's expensive, it's not fun if you don't like shopping or can't afford it, and dropping a size and a half a month is incredibly unhealthy.  That when you stop by the cheap health clinic you get lectured about how unhealthy it is to be underweight and "thin shamed" just like if you're overweight. (I've been both so I know).  There's also the "super fun" assumption that you're anorexic or bulimic.  I know some people are beasts and judgmental, but I'm not.  Or at least I try my best not to be, everyone slips up.  I was starving and stressing thinner and thinner and not by choice and these women were cruel to me.  Even if it was by choice they had no right to be cruel.  Maybe we shouldn't assume that because one person of one (shape, ethnicity, age, etc) that they all are like that. I don't say awful things about larger women, or skinny women, so let's all make a deal not to say mean things about each other.  Sisterhood and solidarity.  I don't think that every larger woman is going to attack me for not being REAL, it hurt that it happened.  I'm not going to think that every thin girl is going to snark at me for having a big ass, or fat thighs. We've all got our demons. That is all.

[theseurlsarealreadytaken-blog]

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So. the below post reminded me of something. In the past few days I have said the phrase 'Women judge each other too harshly' in different situations. One was about lifestyle choices, one was about clothing, one was about tattoos, and one was about gossip in general. Each situation the reaction was the same, a confused look and a quick 'well (enter random male's name here) agrees with me'. Like it is better because us as women aren't just ripping each other apart, our male counterparts agree with us. I am so guilty of this, and I am really working on that. I don't care if you have a shaved head and wear a leather jacket, it doesn't make you a lesbian. Your miniskirt doesn't make you a slut. And your confusion over your career path doesn't make you worthless. In fact, it makes you, you. And I need you to be me. Don't we all?