#snowdrop's soapbox

[snowdrops-world]

My pronouns are in my bio.

My preferred terms are in my pinned post.

If you're going to play with someone for the first time, fucking look at those things on the blog you're messaging.

I wouldn't normally keep the url in the screenshot or even share this kind of stuff outside of my circle of trust but I'm so tired of this.

If someone tells you their gender and EXPLICITLY says in the thing you just read "don't try to tell me my gender" - that they aren't into detrans or adjacent kinks - you don't double down.

To all the trans subs and Dom(me)s: You deserve to be comfortable in your play

To all the cis subs and Dom(me)s who hadn't considered this, with all the love in my heart:

[snowdrops-world]

Reminder that titles are earned.

I'm not calling you "Daddy/Mommy" right off the bat for multiple reasons, some of which I don't owe you

I'm not calling you "Master/Mistress" during or immediately after a first session just because you dropped me one time. It's not the flex you think it is

I'm not calling you my kid. Period

I'm not yours

You're not mine unless we both choose that

I put genuine thought and effort into the titles I give to others for one-on-one because there is an intimacy to a name you and only you get. No play partner of mine has the same title. You'll get one when you earn one. Sometimes, it's your name because I want to reinforce that you're someone worth their name. Sometimes it's themed around our type of play. It is always hand selected after enough time to settle into a dynamic

[snowdrops-world]

You've been missing a lot of Mondays lately. Didn't even warn us about this one. Been waiting for like an hour but I guess I'll give up for tonight?

I've been sitting on this one and mulling over whether to outright block or actually respond. I've decided to use this as more rent lowering gunshots.

You know I'm not paid in any capacity for my recordings, right?

You know that lives exists outside of your own, right?

Recording days happen on Monday for about two hours or so because quite literally that is that time that I've carved out as "me time" and I choose to spend it how I do.

I work an 8 to 5 in a physical office, not from home. I like being employed and not stressed about where my next meal is going to come from. So that time isn't spent recording.

Every other evening is actively scheduled and spoken for. And technically, Monday is too. I don't owe you the reasons why, but I work hard to give my friends the time that they deserve. Never mind D&D. Never mind family weekends. Never mind pain flare days. Just scheduling time for the people in my life takes up the bulk of my evenings.

I don't charge for my recordings.

I don't have a Throne.

I don't have a tip system.

Both because that's all incredibly dangerous for myself and you if I did and because I genuinely do it for fun.

I try to warn when I won't be available, but you don't know what's going on in my life at any given moment. You don't know if I'm in mourning or if there's a birthday or if I'm in too much pain that day or if I'm passed out from a rough work day. And you're not entitled to that information just because you get off to my voice.

If I'm not available on a Monday for a public session? Check the #snowdrop's voice tag. There's a link in my pinned. There's months of backlog at this point. You'll notice that they only go back as far as January. Because that's how long I've been willing to share it.

Don't be an asshole to the hand that's jerking you off. You owe sexworkers at least a modicum of respect whether they charge or not.

[snowdrops-world]

Remember, men, if you don't politically defend the body of the woman who has surrendered to you, someone else might come along and take her from you using the power of the government. Let her be completely free to surrender to you, which she cannot be unless you have protected all of her freedoms.

It's not just limited to women. If you don't politically defend my right to have adult fun in an adult space as a queer non-gender person, then you'll lose the right to my contributions to this space. If you don't support the bulk of trans men, women, both, neither, and anything else that might exist who add so much to the scene, then you don't get to be surprised when those things aren't accessible to you anymore

Subby men are also in the category of people who need defending. Doms are also in the category of people who need defending. Bodies that aren't white. Women who don't submit

Sharing your body isn't only on the sub in a dynamic. Doms and Dommes and Dominants too. If you participate in kink, you deserve for your politics to line up with the allowance for that kink to be practiced. If you play in this space that we curate and work hard to keep genuine creeps out of, then you owe it to yourself to defend your right to make sure that it's safe to keep doing that. That it's safe to make a post about your fantasies without genuinely fearing that you'll be locked up for it in meatspace