#softblocking

[aromanticduck]

Softblocking is the online equivalent of putting a cup over a spider and dumping it outside.

[catgirl-catboy]

I have a love/hate relationship with softblocking, because I love not having to deal with people being angry I blocked them.

But also, I have a shitty memory. I was pretty sure I was following that person, but apparently I'm not? I want to follow them because I love their posts, but if its a softblock I might be being annoying.

aaaaaaaaaa!

All of this would be solved if less people were annoying about the fact someone blocked them.

[rpersanonymous]

I feel like I’m the only one who feels this way, because it’s praised so much as being such a ‘great solution’ for RPers with anxiety, but the whole softblocking trend that has popped up recently just ends up making me more anxious. If it was encouraged and pushed properly, it might be a better solution, but it kind of perpetuates the idea that there is only ONE type of anxiety, and it solves all of the issues and helps eliminate anxiety, when it’s really not a one size fits all fix like it tries to come across.

I totally get how it can and does help people with anxiety and difficulty with saying 'no’ if they don’t feel like roleplaying, but it gets pushed so much it ends up turning more into straight up ghosting which can be extremely emotionally damaging to others with anxiety. Especially for someone like me, who is both autistic and has anxiety/depression, it has actually caused my anxiety to get so much worse, because people pretend to like me, and then without warning just softblock me without giving me any explanation. I know people don’t owe me one, and everyone is 100% entitled to make their RP experience one that feels comfortable for them, but it mostly just makes me upset because it completely glosses over that it can actually be extremely hurtful, just as much as it can be helpful. I’ve even seen lots of AGGRESSIVE posts about people having every right to softblock you without any explanation and saying stuff like how other people have NO RIGHT to be upset if they do, and like a lot of trends started with good intentions, it’s starting to become toxic, especially in certain fandoms and when pushed in aggressive ways like that.

I like and appreciate what it is meant to do, but we also need to acknowledge that it’s not a perfect solution, and that it can become a toxic thing if it’s not dealt with properly. Also we need to acknowledge that there are more than one type anxiety, that this new softblock trend might actually cause more harm to than it helps.

[rpersanonymous]

Soft blocking is passive aggressive as hell. If you don’t want someone following you just leave them blocked instead of soft blocking. Soft blocking makes it seem like either they unfollowed on accident or maybe tumblr unfollowed them on accident and when they refollow you’re just gonna get upset again so just leave them blocked.

And if you’re going to insist on soft blocking do not get aggressive if the person refollows you because 99 times out of 100 they didn’t even know they were soft blocked they thought it was an accident.

[tyhi]

i hate softblocking just block me then. i dont want to wonder if its a tumblr glitch that im not following u anymore ???

[qiyra]

I don’t know what softblocking is and I refuse to learn. Sounds like something a person with no backbone would do, get real

[wherefancytakesme]

I should have posted this years ago, but if you’re for some reason blocked on my tumblr, it’s likely just because you have too much stuff in my personal blacklist.

[harry-on-the-horse]

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