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hey! can i have a fortune, lucky numbers and your opinion on how to deal with social anxiety and school pressure? thanks ahead 🦋

Your fortune: Taking exactly enough is the right amount to take.

Lucky numbers: 74, 21, 83, 2, 50, 66

My opinion on social anxiety and school pressures is... that I didn’t deal with them very well at all. My school advice is terribly outdated since I graduated in the early 2000s. And I was not a very social person; I still am not. It would have helped me out a lot if I had the ability to socialize and network easily--it would have set me on a faster path to my career and would have given me a wider social circle into adulthood.

To that end, I’d advise a few things, if you have the ability to do them:

Don’t underestimate that you will need contacts and a social circle in the future.

When people offer to socialize, try to put anxiety to the side to give them a chance and try to have a good time.

And if it is at all possible, getting professional assistance to help with anxiety is always a good move. It can be hard on your friends, acquaintances, and the personalities you interact with on socials to approach them for advice on these things, mainly because their situation will probably not mirror your own. They can’t give you as many options or the dedicated time necessary that a professional counselor can. And, like with news and politics and trust in science, these days, people tend to seek out different forums until they find advice or information that makes them comfortable, but does not necessary form to reality. That’s not what we need. We need reality and sometimes reality is hard.

You should be comfortable in your everyday life, of course. But this cannot come at the expense of your future personal progress. Professionals in mental health train to help you push yourself in manageable ways and considering the massive burdens we are all under in the midst of an unprecedented pandemic, climate crisis, and general malaise, there should never be any shame or hesitation in getting assistance with what ails you, mentally or physically.

So, basically, you do your best. I do my best. We all do our best. But decide to reach out for assistance when you need it. Remember that you’re not the first or last person who will ever need help. It’s not needy, pathetic, bad, or weak--it is life. It is normal that we all have different journeys and all have different needs to meet when reaching up to the next step.

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