"lesbians should f cis men if they want" gee maybe people writing these should sit and think... maybe there's another label that fits you if.... IF that's something that preoccupies u ... like bisexual
i know its a very personal choice and i would never say like someone who has sex with or has had sex with a cis man cant be a lesbian bc like its your life man there are choices to be made abt how you describe it but i do feel……sad i guess about how this always devolves into we can continue to expand the meaning of lesbian and not we can (also) be encouraging people to explore bisexuality or other labels or encourage the fact that the way you describe yourself can change to fit the way you feel Now. idk at the end of the day thats still my ally and my sibling as a queer person but it just feels hard for me to wrap my head around the desire to talk abt things in this way ykwim?