#space spaces

[disastercomingfaster]

My university, which I used to be a proud alumni of, is getting rid of the pride space, women’s center and multicultural center. I’m in shock. I used to go to those centers in college and I can’t understand what could possibly be wrong with them.

Fuck Trump. Just fuck Trump. Everyday he destroys something else I liked about my country.

I’m genuinely considering looking into leaving the country with my girlfriend. Because if he took this, what else is he going to take?

[no-reallyimfine]

Genuinely trying to figure some shit out… if someone is actively telling you they will not be your safe space - how can you stay in their life?

So much of what I believe, have been taught, and teach others is for the people in your life that you give the most of your time and energy to should be safe spaces. Albeit - this is a two way street. If someone matters to you, you should try to be their safe space too.

Though, not everyone has the capacity to be someone’s safe space. I have had to end friendships because I recognized it was not healthy for me to be their safe space and keep my own wellbeing. It was never easy for those choices to be made.

A few times in my life, I have kept people around because I cared about them, ultimately more than they could care for me. They made it obvious they couldn’t be a safe space for me but I stuck around to my own detriment because of the time I had with them and the status of our relationship (best friends, partners, family, etc)

Now, I worry that it is happening again with someone deeply important and ingrained in my life.

Am I the problem? Or is it the people pleasing and minimizing my own problems/importance to comfort those around me until I need to be validated and then it is a shock that I’m asking for reciprocation in the relationship?

The cognitive dissonance I have been having around this has been a lot.

I am thankful for my safe space people, and I’m wondering why I am keeping the one person that is telling me they won’t be despite it makes all logical sense they should be.