The Wizard Liz: How spiritual narcissism can blind you
What happened to Wizard Liz is obviously tragic and my heart breaks for her. Getting cheated on by her fiancée, while being four months pregnant is a nightmare awakening that I wouldn’t wish on anyone.
While most of the audience expresses shock and disbelief about the entire situation, I sadly can't say that I'm surprised.
Like the follower base of any influencer couple, the audience projects their personal fantasies onto them. In parasocial, one sided relationships it is like a part of those people lives through the couple's journey that they are watching online. They idolize them as proof that love is real, that there’s hope, that if Liz found "her person" then maybe they can too. For Liz, being under the impression that she had found the partner that she always talked about manifesting, her fiancée at first was a great addition to her brand that included her talking and preaching about romantic relationships and romantic values.
After Liz all of a sudden found out that her fiancée had been unfaithful by trying to meet up with another woman over Snapchat, she has immediately withdrawn herself from the situation and broken off the engagement. After that, like clockwork, when internet-popular relationships fall apart, the annual "I don’t believe in love anymore" breakdown floods the internet. It is a parasocial heartbreak. But no relationship, influencer or not, can survive being turned into a symbol for hope. When you romanticize a couple instead of observing them as real people and assume to know everything about them based on the few things they choose to share with the internet, you blind yourself. And that's part of how these stories go viral: they aren't just about that couple. They shatter the delusions of everyone who was emotionally invested in the tale of their love story.
Liz built a whole brand around high-vibrational living, self-esteem, respect, intuition, divine feminine energy, manifestation… Sadly it's exactly that mindset that made her vulnerable to a man like that. Let me explain.
She was genuinly convinced that she had mastered reading energy to a point where she could sense who someone truly was, just by trusting the vibes of that person and her own spiritual alignment. But that’s the problem: when you start thinking you're so spiritually in tune that the universe is only going to send you people who match your frequency, you stop looking at people for who they actually are. You see what you want to see. That’s not intuition, that’s confirmation bias.
She's a 26 year old young woman. Within 72 hours of meeting her future fiancée, they were both talking about marriage and he revealed to her that he knew she was going to be his wife. That's not soulmates coming true, that's love bombing. She mistook intensity for depth, which happens when you're high on idealism and think your "energy" is a protective shield against basic manipulation. It's the kind of delusion spirituality can breed when it's not grounded in reality.
On a more personal note: I've been friends with women like her. Women who read "signs from the universe" into every coincidence, so that they can affirm and validate each of their beliefs/choices/actions. Who think every setback is a divine test and every gut feeling is sacred truth. And even when it's dead wrong and goes south, those women end up arguing that it had to happen because in the end they were destined for some greater good that is waiting for them. It's a special kind of arrogance because they simply cannot be wrong.
Spiritual narcissism is one of the most insidious forms of ego because it hides behind a mask of enlightenment. It's when someone uses spirituality not to grow, but to feel superior, believing they're more "in tune" more "aware" more divinely guided than others. It often starts with genuine interest in healing or personal growth, but slowly morphs into a kind of delusion where every sign from the universe confirms their existing beliefs, every failure is reframed as a fated lesson and their intuition becomes untouchable, beyond question. It creates a bubble where they can’t be wrong, because even if they are, they will say the universe meant for it to happen. You see it in how people like Liz were so confident in their energy reading skills that they couldn't imagine being deceived. They believed their "high frequency" would repel low vibrational people, and that’s exactly what made them so vulnerable. Spiritual narcissism convinces you that you’re immune to betrayal, red flags, or human error, and ironically, that's when the worst betrayals blindside you. Because when your worldview is built on the idea that you attract what you are, you stop vetting people. You assume the universe already did that for you.
Spirituality to me is a lot of wishful thinking and often becomes a substitute/replacement for people who don't believe in religion, because people are bound to search for meaning in life. It is also a way to feel in control of an uncontrollable world. But when it becomes too self-centered, it turns into said spiritual narcissism. It tells you you're chosen, protected, above average. That you are the exception to the rule. And that's exactly why it hits so hard when reality smacks you in the face. Because you thought you were too "evolved" to ever end up like other women.
And I don't care that the engagement ring he buys you is worth 100k or that he writes you a book about all of the reasons why he loves you. At the end of the day you don't know the person you are planning to enter into a legal contract called 'marriage' with - you have been with this man for approximately one year sharp. You can be smart, stylish, "high value" and still be deceived. Men don't cheat because you lacked anything. They cheat because they can.
It's honestly a tale as old as time - men chasing women who seemingly have it all just to slowly chip away at them. So many people speculated that Landon resented Liz for being so confident, so self-assured and feeling content without the presence of a "strong man" in her life. She didn't need him to feel complete, and that alone was probably enough to bruise his ego. Men like that often choose women like her - women who are admired, ambitious and independent - not because they want to cherish them, but because a part of them wants to conquer and own what they secretly feel threatened by. Liz manifested a dynamic where she would be loved out loud, adored, worshipped, and at first, he played the part. But when a man doesn't actually feel like your equal, that power imbalance turns into quiet resentment. The cheating wasn't about lacking something in her - it was about trying to make her lack something in herself. It's never about the woman not being enough, it's about the man not being able to handle a woman who is, even if they deliberately go for that kind of woman.
I’ll be watching what Liz does with this. Will she reflect and and rethink the spiritual echo chamber she's in? Or will she reframe it all as "part of the journey" another test she was destined to go through to reach her higher self?
Time will tell but I honestly wish her the best recovery possible. It is horrible this has happened and I hope we can all learn something from this. I am very proud she values herself so much and did exactly what she always said she would, if she was in such a situation. She stayed true to herself & has immediately left him. According to her, she will sell her 100k engagement ring and donate the money to single mothers.