Update 9000
God. I really need to title this as a series by this point. “A Memoir of Garbage” Rolls right off the good’ol tongue. Anyway, my ex contacted me again after a few days of sweet, sweet silence. I know I should block her, but I know she’ll find a way around that. The reason why I know this is because I realized that in order to even tell if I’m online in SecondLife.. you have to basically stalk me. If we aren’t friends, there is no way you will be notified to me logging on. UNLESS, you search my name, open an IM session up, and wait. It seems more than just some weird quinkydink that she IMs me right when I sign in. It’s such a huge red flag when an ex does this kind of thing. I advise ignoring them. I’d include block them as an added suggestion, but like I said, she will find a way around it. If you’re psycho enough to stalk me, you’re psycho enough to make another account.
Anyway, nothing new has really happened. She wants me to hang out with her, like nothing happened. Yet another red flag thrown into the ring. If your ex is acting like nothing has happened between you two, like the words they said didn’t harm you.. Again. Ignore them. Don’t let the fucker close again. They don’t regret a word they said. They just regret losing your attention. You’ll just end up repeating the past again because no lesson was learned on their end.. and at that point; your end as well. In every attempt to interact with me, she’s only bragged about trivial things in life. Mostly about having a load of friends. Not once has she showed any interest in my side of things. This is also a red flag. If your ex is only contacting you to brag, they’re trying to make you feel inferior in some manner. They have a twisted notion that you’re beneath them. That you haven’t moved forward in life. Keep walking and don’t respond to that.
If I keep getting contacted by her, I will be forced to put my foot down. This is 1000% acceptable, but remember to not go down on their level. Keep it as classy, short, and to the point as you can. Let them know that you aren’t a doormat and that you don’t have room for toxic people in your life.
An example of something I’d send is:
“You miss my attention. You miss being able to use me whenever you wanted to. You don't miss who I am as a person, because you never valued me in that regard. It was “never about” me, as you stated in one of our arguments. That was made clear with the fact that what happened was due to me hanging up a call for a few minutes while I finished something. If it was that easy to toss years of friendship into a pit of fire.. then there really isn't anything to salvage on my end. I have no reason to want to. I'm happy and free, I'd like to keep it that way.”
It sums up everything that I have taken note of, everything I feel, and everything that I want from this. There’s no gaps to keep her coming back. That is what you should look to do if you run into a situation like mine. Ignore them until you have no other choice but to respond. When you respond, keep your cool. State the facts of what you’ve seen. Say it in a tone that conveys your feelings, and leave it with no gaps open. Making it very clear that the relationship/friendship has been destroyed with no reason to be salvaged. At this point, if they still contact you.. a block is the only thing left. Though be warned. If they’re nuts enough to stalk you and keep contacting you even after a message like the above is sent.. I don’t guarantee that will be the last time you hear from them.