pondering anon here but in the asoiaf universe there are literally lords that go around asking for invites to the bedding ceremonies so they could watch lol… I would like to think that the stark men would be against bedding ceremonies for that reason… I agree completely that jon and robb would be less concerned with preserving tradition than cregan. Though cregan would never put his wife through that! Past the bedding ceremony i do believe that the stark men would not be for voyeurism/exhibitionism or anything of the sort. They do NOT! share. Kings of the north and monogamy.
The asoiaf universe is so insane… stark men save us !
asking for bedding ceremony invites.. i grimace, clapping twice and a trashcan falls from the sky for me to throw up in
the stark men would be on the fence about it, and it could go both ways tbh. they could be convinced to do it but would also completely shut it down if you didn’t want to. cregan is like 200 years in the past, so he holds tradition closer — but he still wouldn’t make you do it if you didn’t want to. robb & jon are in a different time, and honestly, they’re too emotionally taxed to care about tradition. they’ve had their families ripped from them, their wife will do what she pleases & if anyone has any problems with it, they can complain to greywind & ghost.
idk if anyone read the tags in the original bedding ceremony post, but i said that’s part of why i think i gravitate to stark men so much. because they want you to be respected & if there’s ever a situation where it’s out of your hands i like that you can always count on them to protect & preserve your dignity (esp as a woman). that’s truly for me what makes them feel so safe.
also, yes. no voyeurism/exhibition kinks for the stark men. they love you too much to risk your dignity 😭bless their hearts. & they’re too possessive. the asoiaf universe is truly crazy. stark men save us can you hear us stark men-