feedism confession: whenever i see a big soft belly i just need to grind against it so fucking bad it's getting to be a problem cus idk how to communicate that to a partner without scarin em
first of all: same
But on a real note, kink is supposed to be fun. I truly believe the right person won't judge you based on what you're into. Even more than that, I think they should be open to exploring your kinks/new kinks with you.
Sure, it can be scary admitting that you're into feedism to someone less kinky or even vanilla. It's also a real possibility that your partner won't be into it as much as you are. That's okay. I don't see it as a dealbreaker. You don't have to be perfectly aligned in every aspect of life as long as there's respect, clear boundaries and no judgement.
If that were the case I think you can consider:
a. still practicing that kink on your own as long as it's not causing harm to your relationship
b. look for a "substitute" kink that your partner will feel okay with participating in. what's the core element in feedism for you? submission? control? hedonism? I'd try my best to pinpoint that and look for alternatives that'll come as close as possible to fulfilling that role