#stone lesbians

[punkpuppybutch]

PSA that supporting stone lesbians goes both ways. It doesn't just mean that you need to respect stone tops and not try melt their stone (although you should!). It also means that telling that stone bottom to try topping is creepy as hell and you should not do it !!!

Respect all stone lesbians, no matter their presentation.

[sunshinebutch]

reminder online "switch hate" just mildly inconveniences privileged switches who think they are morally superior to stone/set sexual dynamics while stone (lesbian) hate is very much real and existing in real life and ends up people sexually harassed, assaulted, coerced or raped.

block people! log off! go outside or talk to a friend!

when you consider yourself morally superior to someone over your sexual dynamics you think every little dig at you is a crime that needs to be punished meanwhile your "problem" is solveable by a simple block button and our PROBLEM is facing sexual assault and rape because people think we are evil for the way we wanna have sex and they feel entitled to whatever they want, and do not consider it "crossing boundaries" or WORSE, but moreso "correcting a wrong"

[bibbi00]

hi!!! i love your blog and you seem really cool and i was just wondering.. im pretty new to Femme as an identity and i was wondering if you could/would want to share about your experience as high/stone femme. i don’t know if it applies to me because i’m a little unsure about 1) what it means and 2) i haven’t delved deep into that area of my psyche yet 😳 no worries if not!!! i hope you have a great day!!

Hello there!

Thanks for sending this to my ask box 👀

My answer(s) are completely related to my own opinions and experiences as a high/stone femme. I in no way shape or form intended to speak for others who identify as a high/stone femme or as a stone lesbian in general.**

First, I think it’s important to establish what it means to be “stone” in a broad sense. In the lesbian community we use this term to describe someone who has strong sexual boundaries. Typically, someone identifies as either a stone top/bottom and or stone butch/femme. I think it is important to establish, too, that stone butch does not mean stone top just as stone femme does not mean stone bottom. Any lesbian can identify as stone regardless of how masculine or feminine they present.

For me, high/stone femme, on a very basic level, refers to someone whose boundaries align with receiving sexual acts but not “reciprocating” them in a traditional manner. When we talk about sex, a lot of ideas surrounding “reciprocation” refer to heterosexual intercourse and sexual interactions. This, of course, means nothing in a sapphic/lesbian context. Traditionally gendered notions around sex should not exist in sapphic/lesbian relationships. More often than not, when we talk about sex in a sapphic manner, we do just tend to use terms such as top/bottom dom/sub as they’re much more reflective of our preferences in the bedroom.

To delve back in the specifics of the high/stone femme identity, I, for instance, have boundaries in the sense that I do not have any desire to perform penetrative sex on my partner. It does not feel comfortable for me. The idea of penetrating my partner with a strap on, fingers, a toy, etc, is not enjoyable and again, extremely uncomfortable for me. Furthermore, I don’t feel the need to touch any part of my partner’s body that does not feel comfortable for them (ex. I would not touch their chest or genitals if that was uncomfortable for them). I definitely enjoy boobs as much as the next person (I also feel comfortable with giving oral sex) but again, it’s not a “must” for me. What does feel comfortable for me, however, is receiving acts of penetrative and oral sex and generally undertaking a submissive role in the bedroom. Again, this is my experience as someone who identifies as a stone *bottom* femme. Some stone femmes identify as stone tops.

I want to add too that it’s okay not to know how you identify. You don’t need to label yourself and you don’t need to label yourself for other people’s sake. Feel free to take your time and explore how you feel and if a particular identity feels reflective of you.

I actually spent a good ~3 months reflecting on if stone femme was an identity that aligned with my own preferences. I knew that I had a strong preference for a sub role in the bedroom bed I spent a lot of time reflecting on what I want/need in a sexual relationship AND factoring in what my potential partner’s boundaries may be. I didn’t want to identify as a stone femme bottom without fully understanding my own boundaries or the boundaries of a stone top partner.

This became a rather long response 💀 but I hope it offered some clarification, anon🫡. I would also recommend looking into some readings on butch/femme as social roles within the community.

Oh, and to be absolutely clear, when we’re talking about sex reciprocation and the like this post is trans-inclusive. No TERF bullshit around these parts 🔪

[highfemmedear]

Happy Pride to all the Butch/Femme couples out there 💖🤍🧡

Also what is more gay than traveling 1800 miles to spend part of pride month with my LDR butch?

[sainte-artemis]

And also if any of you girls would be down to discuss being stone (as in not receiving), please come say hi, I'm looking for women to share lived experiences with as i've been asking myself a few questions for a while now

or if you have any pertinent resources on the subject :)

(please, females who entertain relationships with females only)

[lesbian-ed]

hi what does stone mean

A stone lesbian is a lesbian with a preference for (sexually) touching her partner and pleasuring her, but not being touched/pleasured back. 

/Mod A 💖

[stud-dog]

Making them count out loud after each orgasm. Forcing her to keep track of her pleasure. The shaky, breathless numbers slipping past their lips with eyes rolled back. Fuck.

This post is about Lesbians and is inclusive of Trans, Ace, and NB identities. MDNI.

[stud-dog]

Cute little matching set pajamas are the best. Seeing a femme in little shorts and tank top, all cozy..pulling the shorts to the side to eat them out until she’s shaking. Soooo cute.

This post is about Lesbians and is inclusive of Trans, Ace, and NB identities. MDNI.