Dealing with strict parents
I know its hard to have strict parents and most of the times specially high school and college (if you are still living with them) things get tricky.
But here are the few things I would like to share that has helped me cope up with stress of such situations and some ideas that you could try.
1. Talk to them - Communication is the key. I know you must have tried this so many times all in vain and it's frustrating I know but don't lose hope .At first they will scold you but with a little persistence (healthy only don't be disrespectful ) they might understand and you might get some relief if not all. Also you would know about their opinions on various topics which may help you in future ( knowing how your parents react to different ideas seriously helps)(take small steps at first )( like if you know your parents reaction to girls and boys hanging out and if that is even a little positive you can get permission for that house party also)
2. Don't isolate yourself - having strict parents means you cannot always go out ,hangout with your freinds which may upset them too ,some may understand or some may make fun of you. Don't get disheartened and in fit isolate yourself (you might take this as an opportunity to find out which ones truely care about you and in future whenever you are in stress because of this topic you can freely talk to them.) Freinds will motivate you a lot whenever you Going through any period of stress (personal experience guys)
3. Even when telling small lies to ask for permission use your brain. I know you would want to do most of the things just because your parents will not approve for them and you would want to act rebellious but in that fit don't forget to use your brain. ( Again I am using the same example - you are going out with friends and are not telling your parents about it then 1. Don't go to a place which you know is not safe even if your friends insist that nothing will happen just don't go. When you have permission for something that means if anything happens your parents are there to back you up . But if they don't know where you are and if anything happens how will they help and and I am not even talking about scoldings afterwards. When you go out you are on your own. You HAVE to take care of yourself.
2. Don't make plans with someone you don't know . If your friends fully know the new 'friend' they are going out with then only go. Stay with your friends please.)
Having strict parents doesn't mean you cannot have fun but at least if you are telling lies and taking some 'risks' take calculated one only.
Again I am not saying that you should always lie to your parents , listen to them they care for you just the thing is that what is their love and strictness towards you may look like overprotection to you .
Whenever you are out without permission remember-stay with your trusted freinds only, be aware of your surroundings .
If you have a siblings you can ask them for help with your parents and even if they couldn't do that at least take them in confidence so that you can tell them where you are going. With this at least some one from the family will know your whereabouts (but make fully sure that they won't tell your parents about you😅) Don't forget to treat them later.
And never ever do something in fit that you would regret later .
REMEMBER
It's a phase and as you will grow this too shall pass .never lose hope and the spirit in you because of the strictness.
Have a joyful and stress-free day!🌸🌸
