#sugarcoatting

[evermore-nevermore]

"I usually try to refrain from sugarcoatting things. Excess sugar can be very unhealthy, but it is always sweet."

- Evermore Nevermore (J. C. M.)

[864djsupaman]

Just Tell Me, Stop Sugar Coating!

Okay, as we all know, we live in a world where people have lost the ability to be straight forward with each other. As this topic can bring up other issues such as lying, cheating, sending mixed messages and lack of courage. I'm focusing mainly on beating around the bush. And that wasn't code for lawn care or personal hygiene. 

Weather its your job, hanging out with friends, or even going to church, your going to have this issue arise. First lets start with the job. Lets say Bob is in accounts and needs to sit for a duration of the day. Nothing wrong with that he's doing his work. But Bob also has a body odor issue. Do you 

A. Lightly make a joke about an odor in the air hoping he gets the hint?

B. Just ignore it and hope the smell goes away?

C. Quietly pull him to the side and address the issue?

D. Announce over the intercom that we have a live one and commence operation smell-be-gone?

Hopefully its not "D", and like wise not "A" or "B" ether. Now what comes into play here is fear. Fear of someone's feelings or fear of what would happen when we approach them. Most of the time we want to say something but don't know how to go about it. We even go out of our way to tell everyone but the one that needs to know. Now that's not very nice. Now the fear of hurting their feelings is all in your head. If it were me, yes I'd be a little embarrassing but I would know their was something that needed to be corrected. And Bob would say,"Thanks (your name here), you really do care. I appreciate that a lot. Here's a million dollars." Okay, maybe not that last part, but you get the idea.

When it comes to friends it varies. Because it really depends on how close you are to them. The closer the friendship, the more open you are with each other. Okay, yeah duh, everyone knows this. But keep this in consideration with those you aren't so close to. How many reading this has that one friend that just... won't... stop... talking? I see those hands going up. Now how many of you have told them out right that they talk way to much and need to breathe every once in a while? Or do you wait for them to ether stop or pass out from exhaustion? What ever the case may be, tell them. In which ever way is most comfortable for your relationship, tell them. You'll be surprised at how much closer you'll be as well not being annoyed (as much) by whatever quirk they have.

Now church, probably the most unintentional worse place for sugar coating. I mean come on, of all places, that's the one you don't want to be rude to someone in. But at the same time* how much do you really care about your brother or sister if you don't tell them the issues up front? I suppose I should have said this earlier, but you can get the point across without sounding too blunt. If sister Mary Goodwife wore something that may have been distasteful  I would hope one person would step up and say. Ma'am, I do apologize. But the outfit your wearing today is too short. Ether she'll get upset or she'll learn from that experience. And if she doesn't learn, pray for her.

In conclusion  I hope I got my point across. We all do it, but realizing that we do, perhaps we can work towards a more honest and fearless tomorrow.

*coming from a Christian point of view

any names, likeness or events that were provided are fictitious  and purely unintentionally coincidental