Jan 30
As a switchy person who worries about crossing lines when feeling dominant, I cannot overstate how enjoyable encouragement is. Like, yes, please, praise me for being a little mean, give me permission to be rougher, order me to quit asking for every little thing, etc. Also helps my autistic ass understand but still, its just plain hot to be told what you enjoy. Of course I do worry that im not taking enough control in that instance but there are plenty of opportunities for that kind of thing too