it's a good thing we're mostly inclined to polyamory because a fun relationship complication unique to plurality is "so that partner of yours who was one distinct member? yeah they're now two people"
i want a partner who we can be ourselves around. i want someone to hear the way our voice changes when i front and know its me and be excited to see me. i just wanna be me with someone and be loved for me as well as us
Looking for a collective partner (system or singlet)
DISCLAIMER: we're polyamorous and already have one collective partner but he's ONE alter from a friend sys and cant front often. AND some of us have personal partners outside any collective relationships we have. PLEASE be mindful of this because we will not be leaving any of these relationships for new ones, so lets not waste either of our times
SO! About us and our preferences bellow cut!!!
We're Cherry or Haven collectively, we're the Love Haven Collective and we're an OSDD system (we're also diagnosed with BPD. we self regulate but BEWARE you may become one of our collective fps)
(also some of our bpd holders use the term yandere and are what one would stereotypically call an "evil alter" but theyre not bad people, just really intense and emotional at times)
We're ftm bigender and queer. most of us are like- hyperfemme and have varied orientations. most prefer masculine presenting partners to complement us, tho gender doesnt rlly matter, but thats not NEEDED yk? he/she pronouns collectively + neos
We're 17 as of rn (turning 18 in july 11th 2026). PLEASE be 17-19 (a bit older is okay, we'd rather not date younger ppl than us tho)
We're Argentinean and speak spanish aswell as english (just a fun fact! we have no preference with where ur from)(tho we do like talking abt our culture and such)
We're VERY into musical theater and will study scenic arts starting on 2027. We also watch SOME anime and donghua (mainly Link Click for the latter)(also havent seen many animes BUT if we like you we'd LOVE to watch ur favorite animes with you wink wink <3)
We really like playing games like minecraft or roblox where we can play together <3 but we also like watching you play games or vice versa! just know our laptop is a bit slow and cant handle heavy modded servers or high graphic games etc etc. WE DO plan on getting a better pc in the future but thats for now
WE LOVE DOING VCS once we get to know eachother for like a few days/weeks, and sending voice notes!
We prefer to be treated as both individuals and a collective like we like idk collective assignments and like "my wife/husband/spouse" to refer to all of us aswell as yknow getting to know us individually and - etc etc you get it
We dont care abt syscourse, like straight up dont wanna talk abt that shit. we ARE very uncomfortable with darkships collectively but some of us are kinda "into that stuff" due to source or other shit so like. if ur very anti and will shame them dni but also if ur gonna expose the rest of us to it also dni cause its like seriously a nuanced topic for us?
ALSO one of our life goals IS to get married, YOU dont have to be the one, but do know WE will be looking for THE ONE to marry, nothing personal with you, but rather WE really prioritize it because its a life long goal.
UHM YEAH THATS IT pls dm us or send and ask or comment here or reblog here and we'll give u our discord <3 feel free to let us know anything abt urself in the first interaction, or not! we dont mind if u wanna talk abt urself on discord only
In Stack’s words, he and I literally fucked around and found out. We’re officially expecting our first in-sys baby. He’s thrilled; He loves kids and is great with them. I always wanted to be a mom, but never actually anticipated it happening, so I’m a bit of a wreck. But… Yay for happy accidents?
So, I have a question for anyone in a relationship with another system:
How do you deal with jealousy?
We're kinda dating another system that has a Keigo in it. He's been flirting with me and Toya, and our Keigo's....not liking it very much. Every time the other Keigo flirts, ours gets tense and uh...more possessive than usual. I get the distinct feeling he doesn't like it when the other Keigo flirts with any of us. Can we get some help on this please?
