Hello, I was wondering if you had some advice for us:
We used to have a lot, lot more alters, most of which were fragments and some of which were fully fleshed, however it seems like in the last year or so we have gone through a complete and total system restructuring of how we function, member count is only like as far as I can tell at least under 20 instead, we definitely feel more median than we used to and we share a lot of traits in common with some individual traits unique to each person. A couple things have stayed the same though- the host (me now, sorry we don't want to name any of us) is always in front and never able to leave, and we continue to definitely still be disordered the same way with memory issues, dissociation etc. Is this ..something that happens? We have dealt with a significant amount of change and stress in the last year that might have contributed to this as well. Also, we've been wanting to reset our pluralkit because of this but I'm feeling guilty because what if everyone who disappeared randomly comes back and gets upset with us? It's been a lot to wrestle with because it's very different, at least we have *slightly* better communication lol
Hiya! To answer your main question, absolutely!! Systems can and often do change, and sometimes they can experience drastic changes! This can happen for a wide variety of reasons, and we really think it will vary from system to system as to how and why these changes occur! For example, stress, big life changes, trauma, healing progress, system discovery, and finding safety are all things that might cause a system’s structure to change. It really does depend on the system and their unique, personal situations! >w<
Now, when it comes to feeling guilty about wanting to update your pluralkit… we do have a suggestion for you!
Could you possibly take a screenshot of your current pluralkit information and setup, then go ahead and make changes to reflect your system as y’all are now? That way, you have a record of how your system used to look, and you can always change it back if you need to in the future! But you can still update your pluralkit to match your system with its current alters! We think it’s better to help, accommodate, and work with the alters and fragments you have access to now... If any other alters or fragments resurface, y’all can regroup and reorganize your pluralkit when that time comes! :3
Ahh good luck to y’all with whatever comes for your system in this new chapter of your lives! Please don’t feel too bad for changing your tools to more accurately reflect your system as it currently is. We promise, change is normal and common for systems of all sorts!! And if any of your previous alters do resurface, it would be better to explain the situation and go from there than to make your current alters work with out-of-date information in the off chance that your dormant alters return.
Gosh, we hope this makes sense!! Get in touch with us if you need any clarification here :33 and thanks for reaching out! >w<
