Posted @withregram • @janetlansbury Authentic Language – Fine Tuning Respect⠀ ⠀ Use your words⠀ Good job!⠀ Use your inside voice⠀ Asked and answered⠀ You’re having big feelings⠀ ⠀ If you wouldn’t use phrases like these with an adult, I’d consider not using them with children either. They can feel artificial and subtly patronizing, distancing us when we want to connect.⠀ ⠀ Instead, we might say: ⠀ ⠀ Can you tell me?⠀ Wow! You did it! ⠀ Let’s talk a little more softly now we’re inside ⠀ (in a quiet voice or whisper)⠀ It’s so hard to hear no!⠀ You feel strongly about that⠀ (Or just listen, hold space, accept, maybe nod.)⠀ #responsiveparenting #janetlansbury #talkingtokids #talkingtotoddlers https://www.instagram.com/p/CFshHXJHnOB/?igshid=fki3wlrlqhx6