Okay, what just baffles me is... why do ace people want to be called queer? Like, that's not a nice word?? I get wanting to have your identity respected and recognized, I really really do, but there isn't any kind of "queer" community to be honest. Like, the divides between the L, G, B, and T are pretty thick. To me, it seems like what you want to do is to be grouped in with the "those people" that my grandma talks shit about. Visibility is something a lot of people try to avoid.
Basically what I'm saying is, if you want to be called queer, go ahead. But when HuffPost articles start popping up about these *~*freaky people*~* who experience no sexual attraction, that won't be entirely not the ace community's fault. Just, as a trans woman I don't get why people want visibility. Representation is nice and all, but I don't feel like it's worth the risk; a thousand Laverne Coxs is not worth one Buffalo Bill, in my opinion.
i just woke up from a nap so this reply is probably going to be all over the place
also i combined both of your asks for better reading
but here’s the thing. it’s about reclaiming slurs used against us. like let’s say a bully calls you fat. you can accept it and mope about it, or you can go, “you know what? yeah, i AM fat. whatcha gonna do about it, asshole?” flaunt it. OWN it. it is a part of you.
some people avoid visibility because of the attitude of others. /others./ (actually, probably most people, but i have no statistics or anything, so.) /their/ attitude is the problem, not us.
i want representation because when i was a kid, i thought i was abnormal for not wanting to date. i thought i was weird or broken for not wanting sex. i want kids to see that sort of thing isn’t bad, like i thought it was.
(if you’re referring to buffalo bill from silence of the lambs, he’s uh. a fictional character. i don’t know what else to tell you.)