Some time ago my father gave me some advice that stuck with me and I think I should share it with any/all women out there.
He said to me: If you are ever with a man that can go long periods of time doing nothing about the sadness & emotional distress he’s causing you Or if he chooses to do nothing about the discomfort and pain he sees you in, then that man is not the one for you. Whatever situation you have that is causing you stress, anxiety, worry, discomfort, pain, whatever the case - a man that truly loves you will want to do anything and everything he can to help you, to ease your mind & worries. He will naturally provide a solution for you and figure it out with you. Anything else is unacceptable. A man by nature is solution oriented, a fixer, the back bone of his household. A woman is supposed to lean on her man. It is up to him to make sure she can lean on him, it’s on him to create emotional safety, protection and solutions for her to not feel the need to go anywhere else to find solutions.
He said to me: Take your mother & I for example, whatever she needs - I provide.
Your mother turns to me for emotional support, solutions, peace of mind, money, emergencies, advice, dealing with hardships, whatever the case, she can turn to me and I will never turn her down. I will never not show up for her. I will always be what she needs, she knows she can lean on me and whatever I can’t help her with, I try to find solutions, if there are no solutions, we make a way. Ask your mother if there was ever a time she needed me and I failed her, not a single occasion where I didn’t show up for her *My mother smiling at him*
This is the kind of love you should aspire for. This is the kind of love you deserve. This is the kind of love you should hold out for. A man will move mountains for a woman he loves, a man will go above and beyond for a woman he sees the world in, so never settle unless he’s willing to show you that you can lean on him every time and not just sometimes..
Some of the best advice my father has ever given me. I hope everyone can experience this kind of love.
Thanks Dad “)
I’ll pass this down to my kids
