Hi I'm Rachel. I was wondering if I could help you find resources so that both you and the unborn human you're carrying can life full, happy, and healthy lives. I have access to adoption resources, housing, medical care, financial support, and much more. Most importantly, whatever decision you make, I can be a shoulder to lean on. I care about you, and I hope that nonviolent choices could be in your future regarding the child. I hope you have an amazing evening, and I'll keep you in my thoughts.
I would absolutely not be opposed to you sending me resources. As I said, we haven’t fully made up our minds. Monday is just an ultrasound to see how far along we are, and to be able to talk with a councilor.
Abortion for us is on the table for a few reasons:
We do not have insurance in order to pay for hospital bills, etc. This can be pretty tough for everyone involved and we are hardly in a financial position to handle it.
My boyfriend is likely to get a job where we will have to move away from my parents. While things aren’t perfect, neither of us wants to be far away when I go into labor. I would definitely want some mama guidance!
We know that keeping the baby is not really an option for us right now. Again, we would like to move and moving is hard enough without a newborn. I have personal career goals, and so does my boyfriend. We would also like to travel, come back, settle in a house, etc. before even considering children.
While I definitely understand that adoption is out there, I honestly feel like I would not be the strong kind of person who could go through nine months of maternity only to have to hand the baby, my baby, over to someone I hardly know. I know there are programs where you can really get to know those who would potentially be adopting your child, but the idea breaks my heart just thinking about it.
Another reason we haven’t truly considered adoption is because my boyfriend and I would like to get married, eventually. We would like to have children, eventually. We would hate to give up a child who may one day come to us out of curiosity, only to find we have had two or so other children together. This would bring up questions such as:
Again, I’m not sure I’m the kind of person who could handle that. I know, at the end of the day, these are all selfish reasons. I know that either choice will ultimately be very painful for me. I think in the end we are going to have to think about what is best for us, what we can really handle, and how the decision will affect us (and potentially another human being) in the long term.
That being said, I would love to talk to you about options, etc. If texting is easier, or email, I can give you either of those as I don’t mind talking at all. My one request is that it stays civil (and you seem like a very reasonable person, haha).
Thank you so much for your message, and I’m looking forward to hearing from you.
