Well, I've had a week to absorb this. The Amazingly Handsome Man you see is Mr. Spaulding Settle aka #JonAndJoyasDad aka #SandS aka #TheKingOfSuave aka #TheOneToWatch aka #AnExampleOfHowToBeASuccesfulBlackMan aka #Beloved . He honored me by allowing me an unrestricted friendship with his son Jon and then his daughterJoya. He allowed me into his home. He allowed me, a kid from Koreatown into his heart. But not just me.... all of us that were friends of his kids became His kids too. He would call me "Son" or Mr. Arif or Arif and it always felt right. My friend died many moons ago, but Joya survived. As did their mom Jonetta and Spaulding. I was so excited for Mr. Settle to meet my wife, to be at my wedding, to hear of my kids birth(s). And then I lost touch. No reason, just life. Sometimes I hate life and the way it strips our availability for simplicity. We saw him out at a fashion show where he stole the show, as always I was told. And most recently a few years back at Joya's Thematic Wedding in Malibu. He was always on my mind... but life always does what it does: absorbs & distracts. Hmmm. And now, as of Monday, Dec 7th 2020, I won't get any more attempts to check in on him. My sis @immenoapologies said "He fought valiantly, but again Covid-19 has snatched our strongest. Although, He actually entered the hospital for something simple." . @mamasunshinetreasures hit me the other day. And I responded as honest as I could with "I am so sorry Sis. I would've hit you sooner but I have nothing... no words, no understanding, just nothing..." and I still have only this. I can't hug Jonetta, I can't hug Danielle and I can't hug or hold Joya's hands. This ain't right. Look at how he beamed while holding my wife. Look at how he beamed while holding Jonetta as he witnessed their daughters joy of being a wife. He loved his ppl, he loved the ppl. He served this country & he built businesses to help those who couldn't help themselves. He encouraged our rag tag group of friends to better ourselves through education and hard work. And he always told me to "Love Your Wife and Kids with everything you got. You Understand Me Son?" Yes, Sir- I understand you. We Miss You Pops. https://www.instagram.com/p/CI1BSLBLFga/?igshid=177oc32m7fxez