i just read the tags of your last reblog and oh god i didn't know half of that stuff thank you for that :/ quick question is there an alternative for comphet or was the term reclaimed?? now i feel like i have to keep better watch for terf's bullshit damn
np!! and yeah no it’s so insidious. they water stuff down to make it more palatable and then it gets slowly spread throughout queer spaces without us even realizing it. oh and speaking of queer, terfs are also the ones that pushed the idea of it being morally wrong to ID as queer, bc they don’t like the idea of umbrella terms that don’t allow them to separate the “pure” from the “impure.” it’s too vague for them; they prefer hard-lined boxes/identities to force people into. that’s not to say that’s everyone’s reason for disliking the term nowadays, obviously there are plenty of people who take issue with the word for various personal reasons, but when they try to impose that preference on others as if the word is irredeemable/unreclaimable, that’s often bc, again, the source material has been watered down over the years in order to spread terf propaganda without it seeming like terf propaganda. when really, at the core of it all... is terfs. this twitter thread is very interesting in its discussion of the topic, actually!
but anyway to answer your question, i’m not sure there’s an agreed upon term to replace comphet, but if you read this post you will see that one of the suggested terms is “coercive heteronormativity.” this whole blog is actually a gem; i highly recommend taking a peak through, especially if you’re bi/pan/etc (it’s technically a bi positivity/advice blog but they support all other mspec (multi-spectrum, as in not gay/not straight) identities, and their advice most often is useful no matter what label you use, if any). i haven’t identified as bi for a long time but i still follow them because i think it’s important to keep up to date and learn how to be an ally to mspecs.
hope this helps! i don’t really talk too much about this type of thing because i don’t enjoy discourse and prefer to keep my feet out of the fire, but it is something i feel very passionately about. sorry for the long rambly answer!