I can't do discourse at all I feel like if I say anything remotely too moderate it's not okay and that I'm stepping on the toes of people who are being oppressed and I feel like whatever I say isn't valid bc I haven't felt oppressed bc I live in a very accepting town with an accepting family. Does that make me privileged and thus unworthy of speaking on this stuff? Am I too ignorant of the struggles of oppressed people even though I see examples everywhere? Do some people not deserve respect because their beliefs are damaging to others? Also I hate conflict so if I feel like I've made any move towards starting conflict I'll 1) weakly defend myself and make things more heated or 2) run away but only after I already started to heat things a bit And then someone accused me of tone policing which I resented bc I never thought of myself as telling someone to calm down when speaking, I think that if you're angry you should express it in whatever way you need to, but now I feel like I could be doing something wrong without even realizing it. I never want to be misinterpreted but I feel like I don't know how to say what I mean without offending anyone or making anyone feel like I'm neglecting someone's experiences. Why can't everyone just get along?!?!?!