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Rhaegar abandoned his wife and children (he KNEW how mad his father was and he KNEW they would be left at his mercy) and he DID humiliate them (he grew up groomed as the golden child, you think he didn’t know the significance of crowning Lyanna?). And Lyanna was definitely NOT able to fully consent to being whisked away in a tower, and Rhaegar MUST have known that she could possibly die giving birth to a Tragaryen child, because he had seen his wife’s health suffer.
Listen we don’t know what Elia knew, say GRRM pulls a “Elia believed in the prophecy just as strongly as Rhaegar did and believed her son was the Prince that Promised and needed a second wife” that’s possible. We don’t know what Elia felt. We know what other people recorded down.
I’ve seen it pointed out the only reason Rhaegar crowning Lyanna matters is because what happens afterward. Sansa was given the same type of honor at her father’s tourney and Joffrey wasn’t offended. It’s the distance of time at play here.
Could Robb consent to becoming King at 14? Could Jon consent to having sex with Ygritte, he’s 15 she’s 19. GRRM doesn’t care, his ages of adulthood differ from our own. That’s very apparent in the books.
And any time a man gets a woman pregnant in this world he risks her dying, it’s not just the Targs who are dying in child birth. You could say the same thing for Cat and Ned. He saw his sister die from childbirth and yet he continuously got his wife pregnant.