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Women Leadership

By reading women leadership articles, I gained lots of knowledge about the industrial world. The gender biases play a big role in the workplaces. That is why with same qualifications in jobs women is paying 44% less than men. Women are always dominated in the society by men and even the industries focus on women characteristics. Women are supposed to do housework’s than man. Women should be soft-spoken. If a woman points out her opinion and be assertive she would call “bitch” and a man with same traits call bossy. Really? This kind of social, industrial, and cultural views does not make any sense. Why we as women always have to sacrifice for men. Why cannot be it equal? A man always decides whether he will have one child, no child, or seven children’s in his marriage life. A woman always has to sacrifice in her job and at home. If a woman puts makeup and spends times for her business she would call again “bitch”. If she wears short clothes she would call again bitch and the list goes on and on to call “bitch” to a woman in the society. However, men can spend nights outside for business it would call hard worker or ambitious. Men can have three or four girlfriends and can cheat their wife it would be called strong personality. There are so many obstacles as women in the society which we have to deal with our strong opinions and confidence. Whenever something happens wrong against women we should speak about it even though you would think I will not create any change or it will create many problems in my life because it will satisfy your soul and will encourage other women and the male-dominated society will be more careful of what they do with women. After all words have power!

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Plenary #4

The speaker was an African teacher and a story teller. She was giving great expressions while speaking and she spoke her mind very well with great sense of humor. I really liked her speech because it makes me to think in a creative way of feminist, literature and myths to increase my knowledge and power. She talked about mythical stories and fantasies. She explained how mythical stories or story telling can influence women’s life and stories or create a movement. In her childhood she was very imaginative and whenever she got in some trouble she just made up stories. She described that mythical stories speak about our heart and represent our own cultures. She talked about symbolic literature. She said literature makes us to think in another way and gives us hope which in life can be difficult. She also explained about divine feminine which requires determination, values, strength, and generosity. She said that divine feminine keeps her balanced. She described her as humble to others and always do well to others. She is not fear of compassion. She described that manifesto compassion helps us to connect to humanity to self and others. She believed that people should hold their ground and values. She said keeping balance in life is very important which can develop our nature of mind and spirituality. She also claimed that for transformation we need knowledge and power. Knowledge and power helps us to keep balance in life. She said that self-knowledge is very significant because that way women can know their own happiness and high level of choices. Her last thought on the speech was that we as women should keep balance in our present and future times and be creative.

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DRC Event- Film Screening and Discussion on Women of Color and Reproductive Justice

By attending this event I learned lots of important information of pregnancy and contraception such as how to have a safe sex and how to deal with pregnancy. First part of the event the speakers talked about different types of birth control procedures and where to go for help if you need any help or concerns on health issues. Then we did a group task where each group has to put the condoms on a toy penis. This task was to help us know about the perfect way to put and take off the condom. Then she explained, ways of how women should have sex safely. After the discussion, we watched a movie called  “Catching babies.” The movie was very touchy and emotional because it showed how women suffer during pregnancy and how hard is to give a child birth. It also shows how facilities and nurses are helping pregnant women to deal with pregnancy emotionally, physically, and spiritually well and give a safe child birth. The event was really knowledgeable and helpful to my health and others because without knowing these information I would might do something which can be very upsetting for me and others. However, knowing these little important information can save me or others from life-taking hazardous diseases. After all health is wealth and knowing information about health is the key to live life better!

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Plenary 3/ Pam Fessler

 Pam Fessler was a great speaker and a genuine person. Her speech was about the poverty. She talks about how homelessness and hunger can make people feel so weak in the society. She pointed out a great point that hard work does not prevent you from being poor because many times bad luck can make you poor it does not matter how much you work hard. I totally agree with her because I see many people who work hard even for years and getting low wages and poor life styles. On the other hand, people with good fortune are not doing hard work but getting a good job or succeeding in life. After all life’s circumstances affect people a lot. It is not always true that if you study hard or work hard you will be rich or successful. I like Pam Fessler addressing it to the world by her news reporting profession. She also claims that in today's’ society poverty can identify differently. If someone has i-phone or television in their home it does not mean that they are not poor. We should help people who is homeless and going from a terrible time in their life. We should help them even if they do not want our help. Pam is an women and I am really proud of her incredible work on poverty and leading others’ to help needy people and diminish the poverty; which are obstacles for poor people to not enjoying the life how the middle class people do or specifically who has a home to live and three times to eat and have some laughter in a day. I always had a thought of helping needy people and I did to distribute clothes, foods, or any help they needed but I want to help them by socially making a strong support network for them like Fessler.

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Makers Assignment- Barbara Bestor (Architect)

     Barbara Bestor is a feminist woman who is an award-wining architect well known for her commercial spaces. Barbara build her own house in every five years. In the society, we have stereotypes about women involvement in science or architecture field that women cannot be successful in these fields as men. Bestor says that it’s a good idea to have these stereotypes related to profession in mind and turn into them wrong. I identify myself in her this thought because I have mathematics major and many people told me that women cannot do well in this major compare to men. However, I love to solve problems and numbers and scientific formulas and theory of my major and I want to be an actuary. The stereotype makes me to continue with my major strongly because I believe that we all are different and have our own journey which cannot be followed by other’s rules, roles and perspectives. Barbara was very clear and ambitious about her career in her childhood. She liked to draw houses when she was kid. After graduating from middle school she was focusing on her career to be an architect. Bestor is religious, feminist, open minded, and hard worker and these identities of her made her to achieve her accomplishment as one of the successful women architect in the world. In life people have to be passionate of being something which other’s think they would not. Bestor also says to her 15 year old girl that “don’t worry too much” because in her teenage years she was ambitious but also anxious about things. However, her therapist told her to not worry much otherwise she cannot be an architect because it requires mental strength. I related to her because I also feel the same way. I have the dream to be an actuary but I am very nervous about things and worry too much about how something will happen or I cannot do something better. Worrying too much makes things worse than it is which will not help to reach goals and it’s really waste of time. She also believes in kindness which I also believe in. This type of nature makes her to make good relations with others in her professional life and get into this successful position because I think in this world we have to learn to how to get along with others to be successful and happy in life.

Check Out this link to see her interview:

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Transgender and Intersex

     I did not know the definition of transgender and intersex even I did not have any idea that we have so many different factors on gender. Transgender people do not identify themselves to the sex they born with. Intersex people born with a little genitalia which does not describe them as male or female. From the article of Killermann’s “Biological Sex Explored,” I also learned that the doctor can assign intersex babies a sex depending on how ambiguous their genitalia is. I felt sad about knowing these facts because it would be a harder life for people who is transgender and intersex. In our society people do criticize and give disadvantages to people who are transgender and intersex or identify themselves as other genders different from male or female. I can feel their pain but it’s really a serious issue in societies about their rights and acceptance to the social groups. In my country, if someone is gay the family and society will through them to the footpath and people would behave to the gay community as they are from different species and deserve a life with hate which is very wrong. I am not talking about the lesbianism of my country because it’s not sociologically recognized. If someone is lesbian they are not spoking about it or they do not have their own groups and identities to the society like here in America. So the lesbianism is secretive in my country because lesbian women feel shy and afraid to declare about it because there is no governmental support. Our culture does not value the different types of gender rather than male or female. Every people has their own rights and how they want to live and with whom because it’s their perspective to the life and we should respect each gender identity and live with unity and peace.

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Racism

     Racism still exist by whether a debate between black and white women or by getting lower salary wages in the business industry as a woman comparing to man. As Tatum says in the article, “Defining Racism,”Can We Talk”?” that we do learn about race in childhood and it depends on how we view each race by our surroundings. If it is an environment where we grow up with different races then we learn how to respect other cultures and explore different races. On the other hand, if we grow up with a similar race of our own race then it is more likely to hurt people from different races knowingly or unknowingly because we are not aware of the consequences of diversity. However, at certain age we do learn about values and what is right or wrong so it does not matter whether you grow up with a diverse society or not to respect every race. Ultimately, it is our thoughts how we accept diversity or different race because internally we all know every human are equal. In the article, “The Social Construction of Race,” Lopez tells that race comes from ancestry and how the society represent it. Being a part of diverse Rutgers University student I can explore and get face to face interactions on racism that can lead me to develop myself well by respecting others’ culture. Over here I feel people who are same race as mine are much less friendly to me than who are different than my race which is interesting to observe. However, accepting diversity around the world are increasing and hopefully in future we all be identified as human instead of the identity of our race.

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Second Plenary

     Wendy Cai-Lee is a great inspiration for all women around the globe. She is the most famous business women around the world. She was a Rutgers student at Douglass campus which is honorable and to see her giving speech after twenty two years later was a proud moment of her and us. In her speech, the surprising part was that she was a Chinese-immigrant and when she was eleven year old she came to the United States of America. She told about how she was forced to take responsibilities at the age of eleven because her parents did not know how to speak English and she was the only older daughter who can help them on filling up forms and answering calls in English. However, she also included that her secret of success begun from that maturity at that age where she learned how to handle situations and how to deal with people. She described about her father that how he was so conservative and still she is waiting for her fathers’ good comments on her success in the world. She illustrated that in life it’s very important to “get to the table.” That means we should not give up on something by thinking of that we cannot do or how we will do instead we should go there and face it even if we are not prepared. I related to her so much by her family situations and I totally agree about her quotes that “get to the table” because we should not afraid of something which we do not even experience so we should face it and see what happens. Now she is one of my favorite women in the world not just because of her famous status but how she achieved those accomplishments, and her attitude that she is so down to earth which is commendable.