i started this book about a month ago... • • toko-pa’s words ring so true to me. especially on grieving and receiving. • • i wept yesterday as i read because all kinds of new clarity burst into my consciousness. i realized that the unhealed, unconscious, and unaware versions of my previous self simply didn’t believe i was worthy of very much. if you don’t believe you’re worthy of receiving then you’ll stay in ego-driven, repeating cycles. even when you don’t really want to or mean to... • • for me, grieving seems to be a critical piece that i need to lean into. i’ve never been one to entertain someone trying to guilt or shame me into their preferred behaviors for my life. but grief...i didn’t even realize how much i needed to process all of the unresolved grief in my life until i started reading page 121 of this book. the tears just flowed. • • “grief is the response to a broken bond of belonging.” • • pain as an ally in healing, for real, for real. i reserved expressions of grief for deaths. but, there’s all kinds of losses that i need to feel the pain of and i simply didn’t do the work of ‘grieving’ for...until lately. • • as i truly learn what it means to let go and surrender, the grieving has taken its own shape. yesterday helped me to see how vital my expressions of grief are for new expressions of receiving to enter...it’s truly powerful stuff. clearing the old, so the new can bloom. • • thank you, toko-pa. your words were right where i need them at exactly the right moment for me to truly listen to you.🙏🏽👁 • • ❤️💛💚🖤 @tokopa #tokopa #belonging #greiving #painasyourally (at San Jose, California) https://www.instagram.com/p/BxDKc2QBAiYzfZPykKIjW64tchzSJr8xCrOpVk0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1ib0ynfkb2zh









